< p>Our heart can tell us that just because we are with someone we love, we should be happy.
It is true that love is the most important thing in life and that is why it should be treated with respect. But that wasn't the case in this case.
Love is so much more than the occasional ”I love you”that you say out of habit and on quiet, lonely nights spent together.
It's so much more than distracting you with another movie you actually didn't want to see, or invite your friends over to feel like there's at least something going on.
And what about the constant arguments about unimportant things? Since when are you so petty?
You can tell yourself whatever you want, but the truth is – he wasn't the right one for you. Something was missing.
If he was the right one, you wouldn't have felt so lonely and misunderstood right next to him.
You didn’t feel like you had to do anything out of the ordinary to get his attention.
After a while, you will realize that you you were addicted to that closeness, but not to love itself.
This is what happens: people become addicted to feelings, to the time they spend with someone, to the type and the way someone makes you feel…
You become addicted to fantasies of what could have been when the reality is very different.
You were in love, but your intuition told you something completely different. It just wasn't “right”.
You didn't have a goal; you aspired to nothing, worked towards nothing. There was no place for the love you want and need.
A love that is not indifferent but loud and proud.
You have every right to have the love you want – this is not just a fantasy. You can have the love that makes you happy.
A love that you are grateful for every day of your life. Most importantly, if you want to be happy with yourself, you must accept yourself.
You must start with radical self-acceptance. You set your own standards.
What matters is what you want and what is good for you. The right man for you is out there somewhere – but you have to be good to yourself first.
When you're happy with yourself, you'll only shine brighter with every man that comes into your life.
Remember, relationships are important, but you're not allowed to be for someone live to others – you have to live for yourself. Men enrich your life, but they don't define your life.
You should never put your self worth in someone else's hands. Only you can determine what you are truly worth and others may or may not realize it – that's not your problem.
Deep in your heart you know that you deserve true love and you know that it exists. You know yourself and you know what you're made of.
You know that there is someone who will prove to you that two people can love and respect each other without to be interdependent.
You will find someone who will make you laugh when you least expect it, someone who will understand you without words and make you feel safe at all times.
You will find one Find a man who will accept you for who you are without question – because you will have nothing to hide.
Vulnerability is a good path to love, but only if you have a healthy relationship with yourself.
Don't be afraid to be honest with yourself and don't back down to make someone else comfortable.
Don't make the same mistake I did and don't learn it the hard way. Don't stay with someone you think is a good man just because everything is fine.
Well, what if he's a good man ? That doesn't mean it's good for you. You know what you need, so don't wait for it to come to you.
The best thing you can do is always be on your own page.
