Sometimes men do things that are not so easy to explain. Texting you when he has said or shown he is not interested falls into this category.
Male-female relationships are never easy. Vague writing can make things even more complicated.
Most of us tend to analyze the messages we get from guys we like.
We make they are more important than they are. This really isn't necessary because most guys just say what they mean directly.
Nevertheless, there are situations that are exploited by men. They seem uninterested, or even say so, but keep texting you. Men who play with ambiguous messages drive us crazy!
So here are a few possible reasons why he still texts you when he doesn't want anything from you:
1. He wants to boost his ego
Men are always looking for validation from their friends. So maybe you're one of those women who make him look good in front of his friends.
It also relates to his self-esteem – it may not be that big, so he's looking for ways to improve his self-image.
He wants to be so badass that he can have any woman he wants. Or at least that's what he wants his friends to believe. Such a braggart!
That's why he's keeping you as a souvenir. And you don't want to collect any dust. Believe me.
2. You are his plan B
If things don't work out with another woman, you are the next option. Or one of his next options.
Signs of this can be that he only texts you every now and then. He's never available when you want to meet him, really never.
Or you can see his list of chats if you check his phone when you're hanging out together.
You being so warm is really dumb. You are worth so much more and you have to be someone's first option and only choice. Don't assume less.
3. You are in the “friend zone”
And that's where you really don't want to be. But you seem stuck there. He is writing to you asking for advice.
For everything. Self advice regarding his ex, his current or future girlfriend.
You are probably a very good friend and listener so he enjoys texting and hanging out with you .
Messages between the two of you may be even more intimate than with other friends.
You may also have inside jokes. But he always sees you as a friend. He holds you close enough that you don't let go, but he doesn't act like someone who wants more than friendship.
4. He texts you out of boredom
It's as simple as that. Although it may sound silly, some men just do stuff like that. Maybe he's just texting you because he's bored or lonely.
He has nothing better to do and your number is conveniently still on his phone.
The first clue to such messages is that it takes him a long time to text you back. It sometimes takes weeks or even months.
He might give you a lame excuse for why it took so long, but that he really misses you. Don't fall for it.
5. He's a player
He's just used to playing games with women and you're no exception. It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't want anything from you, but he's just taking his time with it.
He's probably insecure and wants to see where he stands. He might just find out what he really wants on his own.
He keeps texting you because he wants you to keep up, but he never gives too much.
He doesn’t write for days and then suddenly arrives and rasps matchsticks. You write and suddenly he disappears.
It's a spider web and if you're not careful you'll get caught up in the occasional writing.
6. You're fooling yourself
He told you right away that he doesn't want anything serious right now, and you're just fixated on the word right now, hoping things will work out in will change in the future.
But to be realistic: it is possible that nothing will change. He's honest and has told you what he really means.
7. He's just flirting
For some guys, flirting is just a part of who they are. It's not their fault.
They may be in a relationship or married, but they want to be noticed by other women.
Even if he's just friends with you, He may be exaggerating and unwittingly giving you hope.
8. Casual Sex
He only wants one thing and you know it. For some reason you decide to ignore your common sense.
If he texts you suddenly in the middle of the night; if he only texts you when he's drunk (the alcohol gives him the courage to ask things he wouldn't do when he's sober} then he's just taking advantage of the fact that you're feeling desires or even feelings ;r have him.
Even though his text messages indicate that he just wants sex, he texts things like, “You look so hot in your new profile picture.
Your butt looks good in those jeans.” or something like that. He makes his intentions clear.
If you were hoping for more or that he would change over time and see your worth, I'm sorry but that won't happen.
Writing is generally a positive thing. It reduces stress. Especially if you've just met someone and you've started dating. It gives you a chance to get to know him better before you embark on something more serious.
The bad side is that you can abuse it. He can use messages to manipulate you and make you do things his way.
These are just a few things to watch out for. Remember that some things can be misinterpreted and real conversations can never be replaced by messages.
Men are usually direct and form sentences with no hidden meaning.
So don't cling to small parts of the message, which maybe, don't now, we'll see says. You will wait in vain.
Some of the reasons men are not direct are listed above. They always have reasons.
And these can help you find out if your feelings are being taken advantage of and you're just wasting time and energy.
Remember that the best men don’t use messaging to manipulate you – they use it to set up a date and meet you in person.
They prefer to talk to you directly and avoid pointless texting. They value you and your time.
So save your time and energy for this type of man.