You can't plan it. It doesn't happen overnight, but over a long period of time in which you don't even realize it's happening.
You may have even waited for years, wondering when it's going to happen to you.
Everyone seems to be happy in their relationship when but after surviving abusive relationships (or maybe even just one), you're so exhausted that you can't see the right relationship anymore, even when the man of your dreams is right in front of you.
But trust me, some things are more than obvious.
At first you won't believe it's happening.
You won't trust him when he says he will love you and treat you as you deserve.
You will probably try to push him away just to see if he will actually stay.
He will try so hard.A man who loves you will chase you as hard as it takes to convince you that he actually means business.
There won't be anything that you can do to scare him off.
You can tell him your whole life story, the story that destroyed you, and you can make sure he knows that you will take a long time to heal.
But it won't deter him because you are all he wants.
You will start to believe him.< /strong>
This is the most important point. When you start to trust him and his loyalty, you finally admit that you love him.
No matter how many times you've told yourself that you will never fall in love again, it happened.
You let him into your world, into your life and you let him see all the broken parts that you hid before.
He'll just be by your side, holding the pieces while you patch up.
Love. You will love to love someone again.
When they are around you will surely feel like there is nothing that separates you two could be because you both found the one person you want to be with for the rest of your life.
You will begin to communicate on a higher level, and while communication might be a problem at times, you will both have a special way of telling each other that you are sorry or that you are each other appreciates.
Your friends will notice the difference in you.
A simple girls night out may seem like something common, but once you start with your friends, they will see that you are born again and that you are finally happy.
They will be happy together with you.
The way you smile will make everyone around you smile from the heart.
Your energy has changed and you bring joy wherever you go.< /p>
The healing process has accelerated.
We both know that you have been hurt and that surviving all this abuse means you're a strong fighter with lots of bruises, but that's history.
You recover and you feel it in every aspect of your life.
You do everything you put your mind to and you start to realize that you don't even think about your abuser anymore.< /p>
That's the point where you actually know it really is the right relationship because he helped you heal.
He was for you there and went through all the ups and downs with you that you couldn't bear on your own.
You don't see the end. The best thing about the right relationship is not just that you don't want it to end, you just don't want it to end.
No matter how hard you try to imagine the two of you breaking up, it's not going to happen.
You are meant to be together and you will grow together and love each other.
There is no end to your happiness and it feels so unknown and yet so beautiful. This is what it feels like to be in the right relationship.