When it comes to ending an abusive relationship, everyone talks like it's the easiest thing in the world ;re. They can all only talk, but YOU actually did it and I'm so proud of you!
I want to tell you that it doesn't matter that it took you so long to until you have the courage to leave him.
It doesn't matter if you went back to him a few times because he lured you back with his lies, which then you broke and you crumbled under its vile pressure.
You are the only one who knows how painful and devastating it was to hear from him how ugly and unworthy you are.
To hear that you can't leave him because you wouldn't survive without him.
Hearing that nobody else wants you because they were afraid that someone would actually treat you better ;rde.
That he made fun of you, that you could live without him, but he was afraid of losing you because he needed you.
In one Being in an abusive relationship changes you in ways you can't even imagine.
It took a lot out of you and you became a different person without even realizing it.< /em>
These horrible relationships and vile partners are destroying you inside, piece by piece.
You feel yourself slowly breaking it down…until one day nothing is left. It has made you callous and broken.
You have become callous to the world, to feelings and you don't care about yourself or what becomes of you.
What you had to go through is so incredibly painful that you really didn't care what was going to happen or how it was going to end. It just had to stop.
There is only a certain measure of pain a person can take and whatever you've done and however you've dealt with your partner's violent streak, it's okay.
No matter how severe Decisions you had to make that you may not be proud of today, they in no way reflect who you are.
They are the result of constant abuse by a wicked man who had no right to do what he did to you did to you.
If you've been to this point before, you need to know that it's okay. you made it out In one piece and that's all that matters right now.
It doesn't matter what you've had to resort to to get here. It got you out and not many can say that, so be proud of yourself.
It takes time for you to forget what he did to you and made of you. It takes time to get up off the ground.
It's okay to feel lost right now. It's okay to feel weak and sometimes even to miss him.
Even though it was the worst of loves…it takes time for the feelings to go away.
It takes time to be yourself again. Until you can look in the mirror again and recognize the woman you see.
You've relied on the most destructive lover for so long that you're unsure how to live without him.
Don't think there's something wrong with you just because you're so passionate about it. hlst. There is no right way to deal with abuse. Let yourself go at the pace you're comfortable with.
Don't be sorry you thought he was going to change. I know that's probably why you stayed with him for so long and I want you to know that's okay.
You believe in people even when they don't deserve it and that's nothing to be ashamed of.
You are so strong. Firstly for enduring it and surviving the abuse and only you know how brutal it really was and secondly for finally leaving.
Die Stä ;the strength it takes to walk shows how tough and resilient you are.
You stayed with him for so long because you believed in something.
You wanted to believe that things would get better. You wanted to believe that he would finally get the help he needed.
You wanted so badly to believe that he would never resort to abuse again…but when you saw it that your hopes were in vain, you did the hardest thing – you left.
And wherever you are on your road to recovery, know that I'm proud of you. you did the right thing
You did something brave. And for that you deserve all the praise and validation in this world.
There will be days when everything seems so black that you can't find a reason to get up. There will be days when you will question yourself and doubt your decisions.
There will be obstacles on your path to healing and during such times you should always remember what you have done.
Remember how brave and strong you were and you should be proud of yourself!
The pain you are feeling right now is proof that you are on the way are trying to get your life back on track.
And with every step forward, you'll release some of the pain he left you with and take control of your life back again.