The date is one of the most important parts of a relationship. It doesn't matter if it's the first date, the second date or the hundredth date. A date doesn't lose its meaning over time, it can only grow.
At the beginning of the relationship, we all try, especially on the date, to show our best qualities in order to conquer our partner.
Over time, the meaning of the date changes and you can see it as a kind of break from everyday life. A few hours… for two… without interference… are ideal for letting love blossom again.
We need this time so that we don't forget why we fell in love in the first place.
This is precisely why a date in a long relationship can be even more important than at the beginning.
And if the date is so important, then it has to be perfect.
How about that perfect date?
A constant smile, a heart full of joy, butterflies in your stomach, and the wish for this date to never end are sure signs that it will is the perfect date.
But how do you get there?
Many people, many opinions. Everyone has their own idea of what the perfect date should look like. Some like a quiet evening, others a pub crawl.
For some it's going to the cinema, for others it's a restaurant, and for others it's nature.< /p>
One thing for sure, though where and what you do matters a lot, who you do it with is even more important. It can only be perfect with someone special.
If you already have your special someone, you are already halfway to the perfect date.
But if you've just met someone, maybe your first date can already be perfect and a second date guaranteed.
Together, step by step, we create the perfect date.
In this article you will find:
• 7 tips and 7 no-gos for the first date
• Conversation Topics: 15 Questions to Start the Conversation
• 9 date ideas for the perfect date
7 tips for the perfect first date
No part of the relationship is as wonderful as the beginning and no part of the relationship is as terrifying as the beginning. The nervousness, the tingling in my stomach, the question of whether I'm going to make a good impression…
It's all part of the first date and hardly any of it sounds perfect.
The first date is very important. In just a few minutes you can know whether it will lead to a relationship or not. But don't worry, we've all experienced it and survived it.
And we also learned a lot from it.
With the help of our dating tips, the first meeting can already be a hit
Follow these 7 tips and by the end of the evening you will already have a second one Date set.
1. Safe, neutral place
It's in the first place for a reason. A date in an apartment or in an unfamiliar part of town or even in another city is not a good idea.
Especially not when you meet someone for the first time. If it's someone you only know through various dating apps, like Tinder, or through Facebook.
For the first meeting, it's best if it's in public. And at least one person needs to know where and when you met.
Which brings us to tip number two.
2. Plan B
Again, this tip is important if you're going on a date with someone you don't know. A friend can call 15 minutes after your scheduled time.
And then she can do it again in another half hour.
Sometimes whiteß you right after a few minutes, this date is a flop. Or the date can start off well, but it's all downhill from there.
These calls give you a chance to end the date politely. You just say one of your friends has an emergency.
But if everything goes well, you just tell the girlfriend, you call her tomorrow and she knows; then that the date goes well.
3. Reduce smartphone usage
I know I just said someone should call you twice, but you shouldn't be on your smartphone the whole time.
The food and drinks must look good, but next time you can take a picture of them, now enjoy their taste and the time with your date. A WhatsApp status update can also wait.
You don't want your partner to think that you find everything more interesting than your date.
4. Showing Interest
Now when your smartphone is in your purse and not in your hand, it's easier to show interest. You have to be careful here.
You shouldn't talk too much about yourself, you don't want to come across as selfish. On the other hand, he shouldn't feel like he's being interrogated.
Below are simple, harmless questions that will easily lead to a longer conversation and tell you a little more about your partner.
5. Pay attention to body language
Sometimes our words say one thing, but our body language says the opposite. No matter how many questions you ask, if your gaze wanders everywhere, you don't look like someone who's interested.
Eye contact is very important on a date. The eyes are the windows of the soul.
An upright posture is also important, not only on a date. It shows that you are confident. Love begins with self-love. That brings us to number 6.
6. Be who you are
Nothing is more attractive than a person who is confident.
Don't try to pretend. You don't have to agree with everything he says or share the same hobbies as he does.
He will definitely find you interesting if you show that you are independent and confident. For example, pretending that you're crazy about fishing because it's his hobby will sooner or later be blown.
And you certainly wouldn't want your next dates to be fishing spend, although you don't enjoy itß does, right?
Look deep into his eyes, slowly touch his hand, play with your hair and bite your lip? Yes, yes, yes and yes.
Is there’t a better way to say “I find you interesting, I want to see you again”?
You can also give him some compliments. But don't overdo it with flirting on a first date. It should only be a prelude to a second date.
Now that you know how to secure a second date, it's time to learn what the absolute no-gos on a first date are are.
7 first date no-gos
1. Chic, but not too chic
According to a study, women spend 287 days of their lives choosing clothes. Yes, first impressions are important, but there's a lot more to making an impression than just looks.
You don't have to show up on a first date in a cocktail dress. Imagine if the man showed up in a tuxedo. You would probably find that funny.
The tension of the first date is already high, you don't want to feel uncomfortable in your clothes. A pleasant “old” Combination is the best solution.
The same applies to make-up – less is more. Men usually don’t like it when women wear too much make-up, after all they also want to see our true beauty.
For this reason, a little mascara is often enough subtle lipstick and you will cast a spell over him.
2. Don't just order a salad
If you're going to eat, you should eat. Men don't like it when women just order a salad. First, you can come across as insecure and unhappy with how you look and that could come off as unattractive.
How can you please him if you don't please yourself? Second, you can come across as superficial if you care so much about your appearance.
And between us, hamburgers and fries taste a lot better than a salad.
3. No (or little) alcohol
We all know how alcohol works. In the beginning it helps to relax and not get nervous, but after a few shots, it can do more harm than good.
So the rule of thumb on a first date is don't more than two alcohol drinks.
4. Don't talk about the ex
You probably know that, but repetition is the mother of wisdom. It's hard not to compare a potential partner to your ex. But you should keep those thoughts to yourself.
Even if you explain to him why he is better than your ex, it can seem like you are still attached to your ex.
5. Don't just plan for the future
“What would our children look like” shouldn't even be said as a joke on a first date. Even phrases like “We might take a weekend trip next month” are too much for most men.
Loose is the motto of the first date. Even if he asks you to see him again next week, you can reply with “Yes, but I'll have to see when I'm free” answer.
Your weekly planner is full, he should also appreciate that you find time for him.
6. No sarcasm
There are two problems with this: he doesn’t understand that it’s sarcasm, or he gets it but it makes you look pessimistic.
7. Don't expect him to pay
That's a bit of a touchy subject. It is often assumed that the man has to pay the bill.
But nobody should really feel obliged to do so. Especially on a first date, you can show that you're independent and confident by paying the bill yourself.
This way you also leave a good impression on him.
Topics for the perfect date
One is often so nervous on the first date ;s not knowing how to start a conversation. Strange silence isn't exactly what you want for a perfect date.
But help is here! I bring you a list of 15 questions that are sure to get your conversation going.
1. What is your favorite song/book/band?
2. Do you have a nickname and how did you get it?
3. What does your dream house look like?
4. What job would you be terrible at?
5. What was your first concert?
6. What age do you want to live to?
7. Where would you like to travel?
8. Could you live in another country? Where and why?
9. If you had 3 wishes, what would it be?
10. What's the craziest thing you've ever done?
11. What was your most embarrassing moment?
12. What would you do with 12 million euros?
13.What food could you eat for the rest of your life?
14. When did you first drink?
15. What will you never be too old for?
9 date ideas for the perfect date
As already said, not only the first date is important, but also all the others that come in a relationship. And what's perfect for one is torture for another.
That's why I've divided these date ideas into three groups. Depending on whether you want it classic or freaky, there's bound to be something for everyone.
We've all had it dates like that, but that's what makes them classic and timeless.
1. At the restaurant
“The way to the heart is through the stomach” one says. And that's just how it is. If you can enjoy food together, you can probably do it in other areas.
The date should play a big role here. In the beginning it is better to visit well-known restaurants. And more importantly, eat familiar dishes.
Later, you can try new restaurants and new, unusual dishes together. There is certainly a street food market in your city that you can discover together.
Did you know? In the first year of the relationship you gain an average of 8 kilos!
2. In the café or a bar
Here the difference is pretty obvious.
Having a coffee and cake in the afternoon is more for the first date when you meet wants to get to know each other even better.
A pub crawl, in which a lot of alcohol flows and a headache is inevitable the next day, is more for
Couples who have been dating for a long time when you have known your partner for a long time.
3. Going to the Movies
If you're afraid you won't find a topic to talk about on the first date, going to the movies is a good idea. There's time to relax, there's some physical contact, especially when sharing the popcorn.
And after the movie, there's plenty of room for long discussion.
In a long-term relationship, people often share similar interests and tastes in movies, and look forward to the next installment of their favorite trilogy together.
Of course, most couples watch more movies together home, but cinema never loses its charm, and can bring back fond memories of the beginning.
The same goes for theatre.
The next 3 ideas for the perfect date are great for shy or quiet people.
At first glance, a picnic is one of the classic dates, but when was the last time you saw a picnic? me a long time ago A picnic is a lost species.
Since we're more used to speed dating these days, taking the time to prepare a picnic can seem weird.
You have to first go shopping, then cook (or make sandwiches), find a place, bring everything… a lot of work, isn't it?
But since it's for the loved one, it's worth it. It's also a good way to win someone's heart, for the first time or over and over again.
5. Visiting the Zoo
A pleasant walk while observing cute animals is easy enough for a first date. And it's very easy to start a conversation.
It's quiet enough to hear and get to know each other, and all the information about the animals is quick to come up with find a topic.
But it can also be a very nice change in a couple's everyday life. You don't do that every week. Maybe you should because it's so relaxing.
6. Art Exhibition
Similar to cinema and zoo, an art exhibition also offers enough quiet time to relax, but also brings a wide range of possible, profound; new topics of conversation with you. So ideal for a first date.
For couples who have been together for years, it can be an intellectual thrill. At an art exhibition, you certainly don't talk about the shopping list or who's going to take out the garbage.
But if you and your partner are adventurous, the nä next ideas the perfect date for you.
There is a certain resemblance between seduction and a competition. Both awaken the primary instincts and get the heart beating.
A little teasing between two competitors acts like an aphrodisiac. It doesn't matter if it ignites the first flames or wakes up an old one.
You just have to be careful that victory doesn't become more important than the game.
8. Adventure park or water park
There is definitely no boredom here. It's not for everyone either. But for two adventurous adrenaline junkies, it's the perfect date. Your eyes sparkle, both from adrenaline and from love.
Dates like this also strengthen your bond, because you can show that if someone slips, you will catch them. You strengthen each other’s backs and build trust.
One never forgets such a date.
9. A common course
A cooking or dancing lesson can be interesting at the beginning. Adventurous people like to try new things and aren't afraid of making a fool of themselves.
Dancing involves enough physical contact to tell if you have chemistry. Similarly with cooking, you have to help each other, taste the dishes…enjoy all your senses.
A couple that has been together for a long time can do a longer course together, not just one Hour. A new hobby together can bring the couple closer and rekindle love.
A lot depends on the first date.
The first impression often decides whether a relationship will come about or not. What you then need is a perfect date to ensure the future of the relationship.
For every person and every couple, a perfect date is something different. Most importantly, you two find something that you both enjoy doing. It can only get better together.
And then there's no more first dates. Only the second, third date and then maybe a little more…