Self-doubt. difficulty concentrating. The feeling of losing your mind. doubts about your memory. Feeling like you're not good enough.
That's just part of the symptoms you'll have with a narcissist.
Nothing you say or do is good enough and you feel like you're drowning. Every day you're on the verge of a nervous breakdown.
He uses various tricks to drive you deeper into the abyss of low self-esteem until you finally believe that you don't deserve love at all.
1 . ”You don’t let me finish”
No matter what he says, if you contradict him, he immediately interrupts you and won't even let you speak your mind .
Only his words, opinions and arguments count. Not yours.
His goal is to cause you as much emotional pain as possible, and when you have the floor, he can't.
2. ”You're just mad because I didn't do what you wanted right away”
If you try to make him understand that you too have certain rights and limitations, it will he doesn't accept that.
He will make you feel bad for wanting to do something on your own terms for a change.
He wants to make you so emotionally fragile and ruin your self-esteem so much that you think you no longer have a right to anything.
3. “I'm sorry. What else do you want from me?”
He obviously doesn't feel sorry for whatever he means. He only acts like he takes responsibility for his actions, although you can definitely see that he has no regrets.
He says all he can do is say those three pathetic words. With this he wants to make it clear to you that he doesn't want to comfort you or make things right.
4. ”Your own fault I cheated on you”
Blame it. The narcissist's favorite technique to drown you in pain and victimize you.
When you're with a narcissist, you're used to them doing this all the time, but you might be surprised that they do it even for something as repugnant as cheating. Unbelievable but true.
He will twist absolutely everything to make you look bad.
5. ”You are the only person in the world who thinks that”
He will do everything in his power to back up his lies and continue manipulating you .
If there is no one around to side with him, he will lie or make up whole stories.
He wants you to feel that everyone else agrees with him and that you you are the only human on the other side of the ring.
He fights with dirty tricks and does everything in his power to devalue you and your opinions.
6. “Why can't you just forget the past?”
He claims you're living in the past, rubbing his face in everything bad he's ever done and using it against him.
The most outrageous part is that he's making his behavior still not changing.
Even for that he blames you: for not being able to forgive and forget all his mistakes.
He also seeks your empathy and hopes you'll feel sorry for him, even though he doesn't deserve your sympathy.
7. “I have no idea what you are talking about”
This is how he twists the facts. Even if you've already agreed on something you've been discussing for a while, he still acts like he doesn't know what you're talking about.
He's an expert when it comes to this is going to hurt you with passive-aggressive behavior and this is one of his methods.
He will also say horrible things to you and then afterwards pretend he hadn't said anything and like ;you're just imagining it all.
8. ”Don’t have any problems of your own?”
He cannot take responsibility for his unacceptable behavior. He uses guilt to control you – another manipulation tactic.
In any other situation, he would downplay your problems so he doesn't have to be there for you, but if he has dirt on him, he will happily drown you leave to save yourself.
