Are you aware that you may be sabotaging your own chances of finding true love without even realizing it?
If you haven't had any luck in love, maybe it's time to change a few things.
No, you're basically not doing anything wrong, you're probably even too good. And you know what they say: At some point it gets too much of a good thing.
You know, what you do dictates the species and way a man perceives you.
For example, if you always do his bidding and invest too much time and effort into him, he will fü r for granted.
Instead of accommodating you, he will let you do all the work.
And of course this will work for a while, but he will lack the challenge and sooner or later he will get bored. He will not appreciate your affection and kindness.
So it's time to turn the skewer. to turn around No, you don't need mind games.
You just have to show him what you're made of. Show him how lucky he is to have someone like you in his life.
Want to know how?
Read on…
1. Be approachable
When you play aloof, distant and cold as ice, it's natural for a man to think he doesn't stand a chance with you, and then he does doesn’t want to do anything with you.
But if you give him a hint – a cheeky little smile – is that a sign for him to do something.
However, there is a catch. Build a relationship with yourself first. Be confident and know your worth.
Everything is so much easier for a confident woman who enjoys her own company and any man appreciates the chance to enjoy her too. Become that woman.
2. Don't be “too available”
What most of us women do wrong when we fall in love is that we become too available. We take every chance we get to be with him and forget everything else that we have in life.
We adapt our lives to this man. And that's exactly why everything goes wrong. It's a way of conveying the message that we have no life of our own.
Don't fall into this trap. If you have a girls night out and he suddenly calls you, just say, ” I'm sorry, I have other plans. See you some other time?”
If he doesn't text you back right away, don't answer him as soon as your phone lights up. You don't want him to think of you as someone who just sits and waits for his text, you want him to think of you as a woman with a lot going on.
He needs to know that he has to make an effort to see and hear from you.
3. Don't be a gift, be an investment
When we fall in love, we have this instinctive impulse to give everything to our loved one. So we do everything in our power to please him.
We call, text, make plans, try, and more.
So we serve ourselves on a silver platter. We give away our hearts and souls as if they were free gifts.
Basically, this takes us nowhere. Therefore, he should invest in you as much as you invest in him, if not more. Let him meet you and learn to take from him all that you give so selflessly. Trust me, he'll appreciate you better that way.
4. Resist the late calls
No matter how much you like him and how incredibly attractive you find him, don't answer his late calls.
Don't get involved in such meetings with him or with you, because the only thing you can gain by doing so is a spot on his affair list.
If you demand respect, you will get respect from him. I'm not saying you should wait until marriage to sleep with him. Just don't give him partner privileges unless he's actually your partner.
An unwritten law says men don't appreciate anything that they can easily get. So whatever you do, don't be easy prey.
5. Don't forget the feel-good factor
Many of us carry emotional baggage and issues from the past, but that doesn't mean we should burden them on a new man we've just met.
Be the light that he is drawn to, not the darkness that pushes him away. Live in the moment and leave the past behind.
Talk about fun and entertaining topics. Make him feel comfortable around you.
He should want to get to know you better because you are so positive and relaxed. When the time is right, you will have plenty of time to talk about the important and complex issues.
6. Stop rushing and you will reach your goal faster
Love is not a race. You don't have to get all the answers right away. You can't know from the first few dates whether this can really work out with you.
Good things take time. Always take things slowly and get to know each other better. Don't take everything too seriously right from the start.
You'd best meet up for a while and get to know each other better before you start a relationship.
And when the time comes, have give you plenty of time to get closer and build a world together before you reach the next level of your relationship. It will happen all by itself.
So don't rush anything. In the beginning you should avoid topics like moving in together, marriage and children as much as possible. Let him bring up these topics when he's ready.
7. Let him be a man but keep your independence
Being an independent woman is a great thing, but sometimes we indulge in that independence too far. What we need to do is strike a balance between our independence and being in partnership with a man.
You know, every man wants to feel needed. If he doesn't, then he sees no reason to stay with you. Then what's so bad about him carrying your shopping bags? Absolutely nothing.
Sure, you could do it yourself, but it's also great when he can do something nice for you. The same goes for everything else in life.
You don’t need to depend on him for every little thing, but you do need to show him that you want him in your life.
8. If you lose yourself, you lose him
Many relationships that had great potential fail because women make the man they love their top priority neglecting themselves.
They forget their goals, ambitions, friends and life in general and make it their entire universe.
This makes the man lose interest , because the woman who was once interesting and had a life of her own now has nothing to offer.
Fight the instinct. You will want nothing more than to spend every free moment with him, but you have to resist the urge. Find the right balance.
Always find time for yourself and the people who have been a part of your life long before him. Dream, create and build a life you're proud of.
Make your life so amazing every man wants to be a part of it.
