It's so frustrating to always meet someone who's only a nice one guy and then just a few days later he becomes an asshole.
I mean, we all had bad friends. I've had LOTS of them – I always forgot what I learned from my past relationships.
When I hear my friends talk about their abusive partners, I notice traits they all have in common.
Don't get me wrong, your feelings aren't always enough and it takes time and energy to work on a relationship, but sometimes it just isn't worth it.
So, here are 10 signs for not fighting for the both of you anymore.
1. He makes fun of things you love
Have you ever told him how much that hurts?
Maybe you told him that something (or someone) is really important to you because it makes you happy and he started laughing like it was the joke of the day.
I wish ;wouldn't bother trying with people like that because they just aren't open minded enough to understand the likes and dislikes of others.
If you told him you like going to the theater ;rd and he laughed at you hysterically, just go. It's a stupid situation that will happen more times than you want.
2. He is possessive
As you may know, possessive behavior is actually manipulation in disguise. It takes you completely and by the time you realize what's happening it's already too late.
It may start with a little jealousy and he disguises it as a desire to spend more time with you.
Then it becomes a constant need for attention and it now controls your entire life. You didn't see it coming.
Please don't take this as a token of his love,because eventually it turns into abusive behavior and you may not even be able to go out alone because it's like you are his hostage.
3. He abuses you emotionally
Even if it's not physical, it's abuse. Abuse can hurt you more than hitting you, believe me.
Telling you that you are worthless and that he would be much better off without you is not love.< /p>
Talking about his past relationships and how much he misses his ex just to make you jealous or mad is not love.
The horrible truth is there is nothing you can do . When he sees that you've had enough, he might stop for a while because he doesn't want you to leave.
But don't be fooled! Men like that don't give up easily. They continue until their victim is on their knees.
4. You are not happy
You feel unhappy and uncomfortable around him because you know that he is about to do something that upsets you.
So you close curl up in your room and cry your eyes out but it doesn't help because you're lonely – even when you're by his side.
You always feel lonely and it doesn't matter what you're told, it's a lot worse than being single. You may even have put so much work and energy into the relationship that it made you miserable!
If just one of you fights for the relationship, it is doomed to fail.< /strong>
Sorry, but it's true. So save your energy – he's not worth it.
5. He cheated on you more than once
The “Oh dear, but it was a mistake! I can change!” no longer works.
He's cheated on you so many times you can't keep count. All you can do is leave him because he will just make more stupid excuses.
Is it really possible to have a meaningful relationship after someone has been cheated on?I don't think so .
6. He is a psychopathic liar
How can you tell? That's easy, he lies about everything. His ultimate lie is ”I love you” because psychopathic liars are very impulsive creatures and act hastily.
If he tells you he loves you and im n’ ;the next moment he goes after another woman, he's a psycho liar.
You can't heal this, no matter how much you want to. Nothing you can change about him.
7. You are his “second choice”
He already has a girlfriend but promises he will leave her for you?
did he leave her no Even if he is, what makes you think he changes once he's your boyfriend?
He can't suddenly reinvent his personality, much as you might want to. next.
He will cheat on you too and why would you want that extra pain in your life?
It's much better, simple to walk away from him.
8. He has no goals
This can bring you both to the bottom of life! If you don't know what I mean, just think about it.
Think of him spending his days on the sofa in your apartment doing nothing.
Do you really want to waste your time and effort on someone whose biggest ambition is to watch the next game on TV? – maybe that's the only reason he gets up in the morning!
Okay, maybe I'm exaggerating, but you should want someone who invests in their personal development and inspires you to be better yourself.
9. He is not there for you when you need him
You are sick and call him to ask him to get you some medicine from the pharmacy, but he just laughs and says you're too needy.
So, sweetheart, what are you doing with that idiot?
There is someone in this world who is there for you even without your call. Someone to call you and ask how you are and if you need help.
You should be looking for that kind of man – and not waste your time and energy on a narcissistic abuser.
10. You are his last thought
That means everything is more important than you and your relationship. He cancels your date because of a soccer game? Or because he just doesn't want to leave the house?
Yes, that's what I mean. If he really wanted to be with you, he would cherish every second with you!
In the end, you don't have to be the only one fighting over the relationship if your partner doesn't behaves the way you expect!
Successful relationships are based on love, trust, honesty and mutual commitment.
If you do everything alone, it's time to let go Stop fighting for someone who is okay with losing you.