When you end a relationship, you feel lost and powerless. You feel like the whole world has fallen on your shoulders and you break down every day.
One thing that reminds you of him can make you cry and fall apart.< /p>
Day after day you go through the end of your relationship and wonder how you could have allowed someone to have such a powerful influence on you.
You get the feeling that you will never recover and that you are too hurt to ever love again.
And every day you live like a living corpse.
You sit and stare at the blank space, trying to comfort yourself, but completely lost in the thoughts of you both that keep coming roaring in your head.
And suddenly you want to scream and let out all your anger.
You don’t want to be like that, but you can use your body and your heart do not control.
You're mad at yourself for being so madly in love and can't forgive yourself for allowing him to make a fool of you.
And so on I felt the same way when I broke up with my ex.
I felt all this negativity but there was nothing I could do to save myself, at least not in those ones Moments when I was frustrated and hysterical.
And I have to admit that it took me a long time to get myself together and live normally again.
It took me some time to heal properly and love again.
And since I didn't know anything about breakups and the healing process, I only learned this through my own experience.
I made a list of things to do and not to do and it worked very well for me.
And when it worked well for me, maybe it will work for you too, so read on.
I miss my ex and these things have helped ease my pain
1. The No Contact Rule
After my ex and I broke up, I realized that all my calls and texts to him were just a miss and that I ü didn't do anything.
So I came up with the idea of leaving him alone and not even asking him to explain to me why he left me in the first place.
I have followed the 90 day no contact rule.
I focused on my friends and family. And believe it or not, I felt better by the day.
I thought that in the beginning I would die without him and that my life has no meaning, but in the end I did I realized that I was a lot stronger than I thought.
I was able to feel like I used to. I could smile and be comfortable in my own skin.
I felt that I was worthy and good enough and that having a bad man in my life doesn't mean everyone else will be the same.
I gave myself enough time to see everyone Going through periods of grief and getting back on my feet.
Every day I lived without him was a new struggle, but it made a warrior out of me.
W’ During that time I've learned that no matter what happens to me, I can always find some strength to get out of whatever's weighing me down.
2. The Negative Energy Must Go
After my lovesickness, there were so many negative feelings inside me and I needed something that could help me release them.
I realized that every time I stayed at home and thought about him and the things that could have happened, I was in a bad mental state.
When I was alone I felt like I had enough time to think about the bad things because I couldn't focus on the positives.
Basically, I kept those positive things always taken for granted and thought they will always be a part of my life.
And when the breakup came, I realized that if I want something good in my life, I have to fight want to have.
And when I have it, I have to keep fighting to keep it. So I went for walks as I wasn't ready for nightclubs and guys who would hit on me.
I spent time with my friends and I could talk to them without fear, using my words against me.
I realized that I can converse with different things and that way I managed to overcome the breakup much easier.
I was starting to feel better about myself and the world wasn't so dark.
I could see the rainbow after the rain and I felt alive again.
3. Be rational
I know that two days after your boyfriend left you you can't be rational, but after a while you have to sit down and this mess in your Organize your head.
Every breakup is a painful experience, but during mine, I gave myself enough time for all phases.
I letß me time to cry my eyes out and eat tons of ice cream on my couch while watching romantic movies about happy love.
After that I got rid of all his stuff and I started making plans with new people.
And only when I was sane enough to really think about him and me did I realize all his pros and cons, which I wrote down.
I ended up adding how he left me and in that moment I realized that I have nothing to do with this guy.
I realized he was just a tough lesson that I had to learn.
I have learned that I will never allow a man to treat me like this and have sworn that he will miss me when he realizes what he has lost.
And do you know what the worst was?
He got it and asked me to come back, but I could never be with someone who made me go through everything I've been through.
4. Work, work, work
In this painful process of getting over my ex, I've learned that if I'm to avoid falling out, I need to keep myself busy thinking about him.
That's why I did all the paperwork that wasn't mine and stayed up late just to avoid thinking about him.
While I was working I felt useful and time passed faster. I did everything in my power not to miss my ex-boyfriend anymore and I have to admit that I succeeded.
I learned my limits and felt better about myself in my own skin.
I had the life I always wanted because I was able to learn new things very quickly and in this way I got recognition from my bosses.
Everyone around me was telling me to slow down and have fun instead. but work was my vent that I used every time I felt depressed.
Day by day, task by task, I managed to get out to get out of the black hole I fell into. I could feel again and life had meaning.
I felt that I had become a better person and that my sad love had actually taught me a lesson I could never have learned if it hadn't happened like this.
5. The night with my friends – priceless
After the breakup and all the periods of grief, I felt like I still missed my ex, but this time I knew it wasn't him, that I really missed, but just the idea.
And I decided to change my life completely.
I started going out with my friends (and no, we didn't talk about him) and we had fun.
I wanted to feel like I was alive again and that life could be beautiful even if you don't have a boyfriend.
I learned to enjoy my single life and I accepted every change that happened to me back then.
I had so many new people in my life and it was something that made me happy every day.
I realized that life has so much to offer and that I shouldn't worry about the little things.
I realized that I would never depend on a man in my life because you never know if he loves you or just playing games.
And I also realized that my friends will always be there for me and that I can always count on them no matter how bad the situation is.
6. I traveled to a place I've always wanted to visit
It's true that I still miss my ex, but that doesn't mean I'm not over him.
I miss him in the good times that remind me of him, but I know that he is no longer a part of my life and that we can't be together.
When we broke up, I decided to visit a place that I actually wanted to visit with him , and when I got there I wondered what it would have been like to be with him at that moment.
I wish we could be together and spend some time there.
But the fact that I was alone in a beautiful place didn't hurt me because I learned that I can only rely on myself and that people can often disappoint me.
Even though I went through a painful experience, I decided to get back on my feet and this To live the life I always wanted.
I couldn’t bear to be locked in a room, crying day and night and feeling sorry for everything that had happened.
Instead, I went out and continued where I was had stopped.
And in that moment I felt like I had my energy back and that I was my old self again.
7. I beat depression with the help of my family
There are moments after you end a relationship that you start worrying that you won't find a man and will be alone forever.
That's how my fear became one severe depression which I still feel.
In those moments I felt like a piece of shit and I thought I'll never be my old self again.
I thought my last relationship had taken away any hope of ever being able to love again.
I didn’t even want to talk to the guys who hit on me because I knew how it would end.
I hated all men, no matter how good they were. I was negative all the time and my depression kept getting bigger.
When my parents saw that I had lost all my zest for life, they spoke to me every day and begged me to have a to find a good therapist.
After a long time of asking me to seek help, I realized that I couldn't live like this and I found a therapist who really helped me a lot.
I never thought that how helpful a conversation with a stranger could be.
After a few sessions, I felt like I didn't care about my life and that I needed to do things right. look.
And to this day I'm still fighting the fight of my life, but I feel like things have changed and for the better.
8. I got rid of his stuff
I caught myself thinking about him every time I went to bed and saw our picture on my bedside table.
And even if I didn’t think about him during the day, I would look at this photo every night and miss him all over again.
Then I realized there was a reason why I miss my ex and that I can't keep his stuff around.
So I got rid of everything that reminded me of him and then I could finally breathe.
I was able to focus on myself and on the things that mattered most to me.
And that was the best decision I could have made because being surrounded by his stuff was just such a pain that I just wanted to finish.
I realized that forgetting someone has a lot to do with your state of mind and that it was up to me if I didn't miss my ex-boyfriend sooner or later.
Me realized it was time to get my old life back and enjoy life in the best way.
9. I've been through all the stages of grief
One thing I had to do was give myself enough time to heal and go through each stage of grief properly.< /p>
I knew that if I told myself that I could do it and it didn't hurt that much, I would feel the consequences later.
So I have enough time and Space given to go through whatever was bothering me. I cried.
I screamed. I was depressed and wanted to kill my ex.
I've been through everything that every woman goes through when ending a relationship.
I can't say it wasn't painful because it was. It was damn bad, but I managed to come out a winner.
Despite all these bad things that happened to me, I managed to keep my head up and carry on living like nothing would have happened.
But deep down, only I knew what had happened. It hurt deep down, but I ignored it.
I learned to live with it and survived my heartbreak.
10. I avoided him
The most important thing I did when ending my long-term relationship was to avoid my ex as much as possible.
I knew I was being sensitive and that he could take advantage of it ;might beg me to be with him again.
I felt like the best way to get him out of my head was to see him and the places he went just avoids it.
It saved me the torment of losing myself and not knowing what to do when I see him.
I didn't even meet our mutual friends because I didn't want them to tell me how he was and if he asked about me. I just wanted to be as far away from him as possible and I got it.
And now, looking at all this with a cool head, I can feel that in the did the right thing at the right moment.
I listened to my heart, which was already broken because of him, and moved on.
And today I'm a happy woman while he's still the same piece of shit.
11. I accepted what happened
I know you don't want to hear advice like this right now, but you have to accept what happened , accept to continue.
You need to know that you can lie to yourself that you will be okay in a few days, but it won't last forever.
In the end it will hit you even harder than the day it all happened. And you will suffer with the same intensity because the pain won't just go away.
The pain will be there until you decide to process it. And if you do that, everything will be much easier.
Therefore, the first thing you have to do is accept what happened.
In this way you will get back on your feet much easier and faster, and heal better.
If I hadn't done these things when I ended my relationship, I would probably still be missing my ex and not knowing what to do with my life.
But there I immediately accepted what had happened, I recovered much faster and no longer feel the consequences.
Basically I feel like life blessed me the day he left me because in the end I could only enjoy my life when he wasn't around.
< h2>12. I've decided to keep going
This! This is the best way to get revenge on your ex and heal properly. Moving on is not just about forgetting what happened.
It is a firm decision not to live a depressed and sad life, but to live a quality life that we all long for.
As I continued, I felt that life can still be beautiful.
I saw many hurt people who had a similar fate to mine and they decided to just like me to move on and forget all the bad things that had happened to them.
I'm not going to lie to you and tell you that I don't think about my ex sometimes.
< p>There are times when I miss my ex, but then I change my mind because I know we're both a story that's already finished.
In those moments, I realize that life isn't just about the good things.
It's also about the bad. And the sooner you accept this truth, the easier it will be for you.
As you continue, you choose to be a warrior, a winner who has been hurt, but always still has two feet on the ground.
You choose not to be the one who will be hurt and left on the ground, but the one who will pick themselves up and fight for themselves.
Because if you if you don't fight for yourself, no one will.
If you don't respect yourself, no one else will, and most importantly, if you don't love yourself, trust me, will no one else can.
If you pay more attention to the things around you, you will be able to see that with their help you can lead a perfect life.
< p>You will understand that God never closes a door until he opens another, and you must believe that good things happen to good people.
So a good man will come into your life sooner than you expect and you will finally get everything you have wanted so much, just like me.
You will Got a man whose love feels like home.