It's so frustrating to always meet someone who looks like a nice guy at first and only turns up a few days later. ter turned into an asshole. I mean, we've all had bad friends.
I've had a lot of them – and I always forgot what I learned from my previous relationships.
I heard my friends talk about their abusive partners and I had to think about the characteristics they all have in common.
Of course, don't get me wrong, your true and honest feelings are not always enough, so you need to invest time and energy to work on your relationship, but sometimes it's just not worth it.
So here are 10 signs you should just stop fighting for the both of you.
1. He makes fun of the things you love
Have you ever told him how hurtful that is?
Maybe you told him that you really care about something (or someone) because it makes you happy and he started laughing like it was the best joke in the world.
Me wouldn’t even try with people like that because they just aren’t open minded enough to respect everyone’s likes and dislikes.
For example if you told him that you like going to the theatre and he started laughing hysterically then just go.
It's a silly situation that will happen more often than you want.
2. He is possessive
As you may know, possessive behavior is actually covert manipulation. It's eating you up and by the time you realize it's happening it's already too late.
It can start with small outbursts of jealousy and he might disguise it by saying he's doing something want to spend more time with you.
Then it becomes a constant need for attention and it now controls your whole life. You didn't even see it coming.
Please don't take this as a sign of love because eventually it will turn into abusive behavior and you may not be able to go out on your own , because it will be like he's holding you hostage!
3. He's emotionally abusing you
Even if it wasn't physical, it's still abuse. Abuse that can hurt you even more than hitting you, believe me.
Telling you that you are worthless and that he would be much better off without you is not love.
Talking about his previous relationships and how he misses his ex just to make you jealous or angry is not love.
< p>The horrible truth is that there is nothing you can do about it.
When he sees you've had enough, he may pause for a while because he doesn't want you to leave him.
But don't be fooled! Abusers don't give up easily. They continue until their victim is on their knees.
4. You are not happy
You feel unhappy and uneasy when you are around him because you know he is going to be something soon will do what will upset you.
So, you lock yourself in your room and cry your eyes out, but it doesn't help because you're lonely – even when you're with him.
You always feel lonely and it doesn't matter what anyone tells you, it's a lot worse than being single.
Maybe you have you even put so much work and effort into your relationship that it made you unhappy!
If just one of you fights to make it work, it's doomed to fail. Sorry but it's the truth. So save your energy – he's not worth it.
5. He cheated on you more than once
The “Ohh baby, but it was just a mistake! I can change! " no longer works. He cheated on you so many times you lost count.
All you can do here is leave him because he will only ever make the stupidest excuses.
Is it really possible to rebuild a meaningful relationship after someone cheated on you? I would say no.
6. He's a morbid liar
How can you tell if someone is a morbid liar? Quite simply, he lies about everything!
His ultimate lie is “I love you” because pathological liars are very compulsive creatures and act hastily.
If he tells you he loves you and the next moment he's after another woman, he's a pathological liar.
And you won't be able to heal it the way you imagined. You can't change that about him.
7. You are his “second choice”
He already has a girlfriend, but he promises you that he will leave her just to be with you. did he leave her No.
Even if he did, what makes you think he would change if he were your friend?
He can't magically change his character no matter how much you want to.
He would betray you too, and why would you want all that extra pain in yours have life? It's much better to just walk away from him.
8. He has no ambitions
This can bring you both to the abyss of life! If you have no idea what I mean, just think about it.
Think about how he spends his days on a couch in your apartment doing nothing.
Do you really want to invest your time and effort in someone whose greatest desire is it to watch the next game on TV? – It might even be the only reason he gets up in the morning!
Okay, I might be exaggerating, but you should want someone who invests in their personal development and inspires you, yourself to be a better person.
9. He is not there for you when you need him
You have been sick and you call him to ask if he can get you some medicine from the pharmacy but all he does is laugh and say you are too needy.
Really girl what have you been doing with that idiot for so long ?
There is someone in this world who will be there for you without you having to call them.
There is someone who will call you and ask how you are and if you need help with something.
You should look for this type of guy – don't waste your time and energy on a narcissistic abuser.
10. You are the last thing on his mind
It means that everything is more important to him than you and the relationship he has with you.
He canceled your date because of a soccer game? Or is it the fact that he's not willing to put in some effort to get out of the house?
Yup, that's what I'm talking about. If he really wanted to be with you, he would want to spend every little second with you!
After all, if your partner isn't behaving the way they should, you don't have to be the only one concerned fight to make it work!
Successful relationships are based on love, trust, honesty and mutual commitment. When you're doing everything on your own, it's time to let go.