Being in a narcissistic relationship is an emotional rollercoaster ride. One moment you're the happiest person and the next you're feeling like a piece of shit.
Narcissists are so brilliant. They will reverse your feelings in seconds.
You may be wondering how they get away with this.
They are experts in their field. They use manipulative behavior to control you.
They use all kinds of tactics to play with your mind to do things their way.
Because of their experience you are completely unaware that you are being manipulated-that and the fact that you love this a-hole, so you excuse his behavior.
But don't worry, he knows that you love him and he takes advantage of it. That's why he has the power to control you like this.
It's easier for you to keep your eyes closed than to admit the truth- he's a fucking narcissist.
So what happens when a narcissist leaves you ;sst? There are two possible outcomes of the scenario.
First is that he just walks away and completely ignores you as if you didn't mean anything to him because he probably has another victim, so he doesn't care about his well-being.
But sometimes it goes in a completely different direction that you never expected.
Maybe he wants you back. Have you ever wondered how to make a narcissist want you back?
It's easy- just leave him, and he will be crazy about you. Then again, who in their right mind would want to go through that hell again?
But either way, he'll probably want you back. Why?
That's the thing about narcissistic people. They need someone to feed them their ”victims” are like drugs to them. You're their dose of “happiness”.
They can't bear the thought of being alone. When they are alone they have no one and that makes them frustrated and nervous- just like craving a shot.
In other words, they need a dose of you, they need to tap into your energy to feed their own. They need to destroy a part of you in order to build a part of themselves.
So if they've been abandoned and don't have a plan B, a plan of attack is in place using only the St&rs ;the first ones to survive.
Just sit back and wait for it to happen because he will find you and try to manipulate you into getting you to him return.
He will use his manipulative behavior to seduce you.
You can also use phrases like: “I can't live without you” and he really can't-but not for the reason you might think.
Not because he loves you, but because he needs you, otherwise it will dry out. He needs your misery to keep him happy and content.
He will lure you into his trap and once you are in, he will change drastically.
All that abuse, ignorance and pain will come back knocking on your door. But guess what?
You invited her in. You invited HIM. You fell for his sneaky trick because you didn't know any better.
Maybe you were just intoxicated by his plö for a second ;recent change of heart.
You really thought he saw what he had done wrong and he looked like he was genuinely sorry.
All this is just a game for him to get what he wants.
What happens when a narcissist leaves you and you meet someone who will treat you the way you deserve?
You will… Feel like Alice in Wonderland.
Any new (usually normal) feeling is strange. You feel like you don't deserve this. After some time of abuse you got used to it.
You got used to submitting to your partner.
Now that the tide has turned, you don't know how to deal with it. These new feelings you are experiencing scare you because they are not abuse, they are love and you do not know love.
In his behavior doubt.
Not a day goes by that you don't have an inkling that things are about to change- all this beautiful behavior is just a facade.
The guy who made you doubt everything and everyone also acted nice and caring at first. Then suddenly everything changed.
So it's only natural that you think this one will do the same. You're just waiting for the storm that will bring dark clouds into your relationship.
You don't hope for the better because you've never seen anything but misery. But this time it's different. Just wait.
Feeling confused because your voice is finally being heard. There is actually someone by your side who is interested in what you have to say.
Nobody ignores you or appeases you. It's not easy going into this mode.
After so much time being treated like shit, you're finally getting all the love and respect you deserve.
Your new boyfriend will care about the things you have to say because he genuinely cares about you.
Not to blame for all the bad things , that happen in your relationship. You won't always be his punching bag when he feels like shit.
He will not blame you just because he is unhappy with himself. Before, anything negative that happened was kind of your fault and after a while you started to believe that.
You blame yourself for his given his mistakes and his cruel behavior. Well, things aren't like that. You've met someone responsible enough to admit when they're wrong.
He's man enough to admit his mistakes and it's something you thought you'd never see.
Leaded to compromise again.< /strong> If a narcissist says something, it will be like this and not otherwise. You had no right to suggest anything.
If he was in the mood to do something, it had to be done and nobody asked you.
After you free yourself from this suffocating and destructive relationship, here comes a man who knows how to take your opinion into account.
He will teach you what a compromise is and how a healthy and happy relationship looks like because you never had a chance to learn that.
You only learned how to ignore the insults and pain he inflicted on you. gt.
Getting used to all the kindness. Selfishness was the only thing you knew and experienced in your previous relationship . It was always about him.
Now you've been introduced to kindness and caring – it should have been like this from the start.
It may be hard for you to get used to, but that's how love should be. It shouldn't be a two-way street or a dead end.
Not “I” all the time. and "me" listen. Your new friend is aware of the things you've been through, but it will never be all about him.
He will listen to what you have to say because he cares really cares about your opinion.
He loves you and cares about what his better half has to say, unlike in the past when it was all about one person&md;den heimtü ckic narcissists.
”I'm sorry” listen. Up to this point, you were the only one who apologized.
The narcissist letß think you are responsible for everything, so you apologized for everything; for all the things you did and didn't do because you were afraid of the confrontations and arguments.
By admitting that you did something wrong, you hoped that he just let it go, but he never did.
He pulled you in even deeper. Well, things are different now. You'll be in shock the first time he apologizes, but it's true, it's heartfelt.
Real men admit their mistakes; they don't hide or blame others like these cowards.
Not being manipulated. You no longer feel like you accidentally did something wrong to say and bang! Suddenly a fight breaks out.
You can finally relax and trust your partner. Maybe not at first, but once you realize he's not like that manipulative piece of s******e, you'll see things from a different perspective.
But if if you want to do all these things you have to get rid of the fear and let it find a way to your heart, you have to let it heal you and show you things you haven't seen before.
He will finally teach you what true love is. True lovemeans loving someone unconditionally.
It's about loving someone with flaws and all. It's about appreciating someone.
It's about finding something in that other person that will never let you go. This person is the only one in the world who has that something and you want it.
It's about catching each other for every fall. It's about supporting your loved ones in everything they do.
It's about respecting each other. It's about having endless trust in each other. It's about making compromises and taking each other into consideration.
You have all these things now and you didn't have any of them then. You were unfortunate enough to stumble across someone who only cared about themselves.
The only thing you two had in common was a love for the same person-HIM.
All of this is finally over.