Sometimes it's hard to accept the fact that every experience in our lives has a place and meaning, especially when it comes to heartbreak.
Romantic feelings are a very sensitive subject and there is no denying that they affect our lives significantly influence.
When it comes to romantic relationships, the highs can be really high, but that also means the lows are really low.
They can make your life go uphill or downhill in a flash.
Yet it's true that there's always a silver lining. We just need time to recognize them.
The same goes for your ex. You may think of them with anger and bitterness, but in time you will learn the lesson that he gave you for life and in a way you will be grateful for it.
You don’t need to be specifically grateful for him, but for the experience that made you a stronger and better person.
In addition, you can use your personal Pursue similar progression based on the lessons your ex taught you, intentionally or unintentionally.
Perhaps you find it difficult to see the good in such painful and confused experiences.
So I want to share what I've learned and I hope that you will recognize some of it in your own experience.
The first thing I learned from my ex is, that sometimes people hurt you unintentionally.
Yes, it can happen and it happens very often.
It doesn't mean that there shouldn't be any consequences for this, but it's easier to understand what they did if you look at it from a different perspective.
Each of us interprets the same thing differently, and sometimes that means someone ends up hurting about something that someone else doesn't care about at all.
That helped me to develop into a more understanding and mature person who will pause and think before taking everything too personally.
The second very important thing, one thing I've learned is to recognize abuse in all its forms.
When we think of abuse, we usually think of physical abuse, but that's not the only way toxic people harm others.
There are more subtle forms of abuse, like e.g. psychological abuse, which also occurs in all possible forms: verbal abuse, passive-aggressive behavior, restrictive behavior, gaslighting and more.
As terrible as my experience was, it taught me to stand up for myself and to recognize my own power.
I learned not to sacrifice my own well-being for nothing, that it's not worth it Nothing that makes you depressed all the time is worth it.
When I implemented this simple rule into my life, everything got better. If it wasn't for my unfortunate ex, I never would have got it right.
The third thing I learned is, that you always have to be yourself and live your own life, have your own hobbies and friends, regardless of your relationship status.
The worst thing you can do is losing yourself in a relationship and ending up unhappy in it for the same reason.
No man has the right to limit your needs or your freedom of speech because of his own To reduce fears and no love is love if you can't be yourself.
Ironically, my devotion to another human being ultimately made me realize that I must first find myself and accept myself.
Only you can truly heal yourself, and healing comes through personal growth and development.
In the end, I realized that all of my relationships were a reflection of how I saw myself at that stage in life, and that explains a lot.
A quote from Stephen Chbosky says, that we accept the love we think we deserve, and I agree.
This made me think about my relationship with myself and agree Realize that every relationship is an opportunity to learn about myself, because everything we overlook about ourselves comes out once we're in a relationship.
Have one Look back at all your past relationships and see how far you've come, how certain things bother you less and how much happier you feel in your own skin.
< strong>The more you become aware of your own growth, the more you realize how unusually grateful you are for your life and all the people you have met on your journey through life.< /p>
Despite the pain, because pain is something that can change and evolve, just like you.