We hate to hear it and we hate it to admit it to yourself, but unfortunately sometimes love isn't enough to make a relationship last.
Sure, it's important, but it's only one piece of the puzzle. There are other important pieces of the puzzle that must fit together to form the overall picture.
What we usually forget is the most obvious thing that love takes two – two people who try hard, invest equally and meet halfway.
We fail in our relationships every time we think we love enough for two. It doesn't. There's always something missing.
Check out the 9 most common reasons why your relationship won't work even if your feelings are real:
1. Your future plans are not the same
He doesn't see himself as a married man. You can't imagine living in the country.
One of you doesn't want to have children and the other one can't imagine a future without them.
And it doesn't matter how strong whatever your feelings are, at some point you will have to face the fact that living together will make you unhappy.
2. There are problems of trust that cannot be solved
We all know that relationships are unsustainable if there is no trust.
Sometimes, however, we try our best to restore that trust and make things work because it's so important to us and we don't want to let go.
If someone has betrayed us or caused us to doubt them in any way, that seed of doubt will be permanently implanted in our minds and cannot be let go.
Previously or later you will find that there is no other choice but to break up.
3. His family doesn't accept you
This is a really hard pill to swallow as it has nothing to do with the two of you or your love, but it will ruin your relationship anyway will.
For example, there are some mothers who believe that nobody is good enough for their son.
There are also situations where some family members want you to come across as a bad person and Similar examples of unnecessary family interference.
If he's close to his family and can't stand up to them when they treat you badly or shut them up when they start filling his head with nonsense, it's only a matter of time before they manage to break you both up.
4. Each day is more dramatic than the last
You pray for a drama-free relationship, but it seems impossible.
You and your partner are all about each other the clock on your heels and you always find new things to argue about or at least discuss at length.
You can't remember the last time you've been for a week had peace and harmony.
After a quiet day or two, the storms kick in and you're altogether more sad than happy.
For all the love and probably undeniable attraction you share, you just aren't compatible.
You're not on the same level and there's probably no chance you ever will be.
5. ´´Is he really my great love? ´´ echoes in your head
There are things that don't work in your relationship, no matter how hard you try or how much you invest.
You feel like all the effort comes from your side and the other person is not actively participating in your relationship.
You love, but you don't know if you are loved the same way and it is killing you bit by bit.
< p>That's why you're unable to shake this feeling that something better could be out there.
Trust your gut feeling. The thing about a great love is that you don't have to wonder, you just know it.
Not everything has to be perfect, but two people who want to stay together and love each other endlessly, make the difference.
6. You can't bridge the physical distance
Relationships can be difficult. Long distance relationships can be even more difficult.
It's extremely difficult to maintain a relationship if you don't live in the same city, state, or continent.
If you don't plan to live in the same place one day, if one of you is not ready to move, you are only delaying the inevitable.
You can’t be a long-distance couple forever, can you?
7. Lust is a foreign word in your relationship
Eventually there was no more sexual tension and now you're just two friends sharing the apartment or keeping each other from being single. That's just not true.
The other possible scenario is that you got into a relationship because you developed strong friendship feelings for a certain person and you thought the spark would skip later.
I'm sorry to tell you this, but it never will.
Chemistry, lust, attraction, and sex are what separate a relationship from friendship, and while they're not the most important components, they play a big part.
8. He's jealous
I believe that there is a healthy dose of jealousy in every relationship and that's more than okay.
It can sometimes be be flattering. But once that healthy boundary is crossed, a relationship can seem like hell.
When your partner wants to know your every move, when he gets angry every time you talk to someone of the opposite sex, then accuses you of cheating on him without a good reason it is safe to say that he is overly jealous and will drive you mentally insane.
9. He's Abusive
It goes without saying that this is an unhealthy relationship and if you are ever into anything that you should get out of is violent in any way.
We hear many women say that they love their abuser despite any psychological or physical damage they cause.
< p>It's really hard to break that unhealthy bond, but the sooner the better.
True love will never hurt you in any way. Everything else is a lie.