It doesn't matter how many times we get heartbroken, somehow we always attract men, that aren't really good for us.
Of course, every relationship teaches us a valuable life lesson – but why does it hurt so much?
These guys will live with us for the rest of our lives and we're fed up with them all! So here are a few tips and tricks on how to stop attracting the wrong men:
1. You need to know what you're looking for
Most of the time we settle for guys who don't really fit the profile of our dream man, but we still want to be with them because we think they could change for the better.
No . Stop it.
You need to know what you want and what you deserve in a relationship.
If he doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends or is super jealous, these are all red flags to get out of there real quick because it will be like this forever.
2. Be confident and value yourself
I repeat, we settle for average men who, while cute, may be cute. look but are toxic as hell because we don't realize what we deserve.
It is very important that you know that you are an amazing woman who can achieve anything she wants dreams! So don't forget that and raise your standards!
You want a man, but you don't need one. It's just more fun when he does something for you, even if you can do it yourself.
Don't be desperate and don't run into anyone's arms. Remember that there is nothing in this world that is even remotely as beautiful and unique as you.
3. Don't be afraid to engage
This may sound weird, but I was with a friend of mine the other day and she said she always picks the wrong guys because she's afraid of marriage and serious relationships.
I looked up I looked back at my previous relationships and found that I felt the same way, only I wasn't even aware of it.
Maybe you're afraid of commitment, but you are not noticed until now.
4. You can't find the right man in the wrong place
If you've fallen in love with a man you met drunk at a club surrounded by other women, then he absolutely can't be the one.
You can't want a man who was drunk when you met him, if you don't like drinking at all.
So if you want a long-term and loving relationship with a well-read man, you will find him in a library, not in a disco.< /p>
5. You don't need anyone's approval
I know I don't know if this has been the case in your previous relationships, but many have problems with the need for approval in relationships.
Women will start a relationship with anyone who gives them attention and approval simply because it feels good.
Don't be one of them. The fault is of course not the woman herself, but e.g. the important father figure in her past, who did not give her the necessary recognition.
6. Remember that you can change the pattern
Even if all your previous partners were bad guys who only used you for their own amusement , it doesn't mean it will stay that way for the rest of your life.
You can end this pattern now and start over.
Even if you commit to toxic relationships and Once you get used to the pain, you don’t have to live in it forever.
In a new relationship with someone who values you, you will be much happier and more content.
7. Be mindful of what you can't tolerate
So he came home smelling like another woman. You can't just curl up in the corner and cry, no. You need to confront the bastard and tell him what's up.
If he's not giving you the attention you deserve, then I don't need to tell you to move on. He's not worth your effort and energy.
Set clear boundaries when it comes to relationships and don't cross them.
8. Give yourself a break
Remember that there is someone out there who was made for you and no one can take them away from you.< /p>
Give yourself some time to think and don't stress. Putting yourself under pressure can lead to a lot of unhealthy decisions.