The biggest problem in a toxic relationship is that you don't necessarily realize you're in one.
You get used to bad treatment because it gradually becomes a part of your life.
It can be happily; There are bad moments (when the abuser is in the ”mood”) that make you forget those bad things that happened and will happen again.
Toxic relationships are addictive. You can't break that bridge because you have some kind of security.
You have someone who supposedly cares about you – someone who should be taking care of you.
But you don't know any better, so you stick with him.
Toxic relationships are one Challenge. You feel it's up to you to find your own happiness in this type of relationship.
You think things don't fall out of the blue and you feel it's your duty to keep your relationship running to bring.
There's no harm in trying to make it work, but remember – you have to fight for someone worth fighting for.
Abusers don't deserve to fight for them.
Toxic relationships revolve around fear.
Most women still think that being in a dysfunctional relationship is better than being single.
They don't have the courage to break free from their abusers.
But some of them find the courage to break the chains of their abusive relationship, only to encounter another obstacle.
You meet someone new and everything in a relationship should be normal is way out of their comfort zone.
They are used to being treated badly.
Here are some things that can happen to you when you meet a nice guy after the last one treated you like trash:
1. You will have the space and support to learn to love yourself
The first thing you need to do is learn to love yourself.
You have to trust yourself because nobody can know what is good for you.
You are the only person who knows and controls this part of your life.
Dating a lovely guy provides you with the right conditions to become the self-loving woman you know that you must be her.
Once you have achieved this, you are ready for the next step.
2. You will encounter unknown "strange" Experience feelings
You've suffered enough and now that you've met a good guy, take the bull by the horns and don't let go.
Instead of being afraid of new feelings, accept your positive and healthy relationship.
Everyone should be like this and that's something you still can't understand.
Don't be afraid to let yourself go because this man will understand that you've been through hell and back.
3. You will expect the same story all over again
You have lost faith in people. After being treated like s*** you're scared that you will be treated like s*** again.
When you start a new relationship you can't shake the feeling that he is just like him the other.
For you it is impossible to imagine that someone is there for you who does not treat you badly.
You chose a guy who doesn't deserve you and now that you've experienced the opposite treatment (love you deserve) you can't imagine what kept you going in your toxic relationship.< /p>
4. They will over-analyze everything
He's treating you like you deserve it, but something's bothering you.
You can Not accepting the fact that he is acting this way because he cares about you.
You over-analyze things and look for hidden motives. However, there are none.
Most likely you will stand back and look at things from a different perspective just to reassure yourself that he doesn’t want to harm you.
Hopefully then you will realize that there are no hidden motives and his love for you is pure and long-lasting.
5. You'll think it's too good to be true
You can't shake the feeling that something is going to go wrong in your relationship.
You expect him to freak out. Maybe he'll get this "goodie-goodie" – mask and shows his true colors.
But he stays the same – full of understanding, patience and ready to love you.
There is absolutely no reason not to trust him, but your wounds have not healed yet.
It will take time and he is aware of it.
6. You wait for the 'perfect storm'
In toxic relationships, arguments come out of nowhere.
Even now you cannot relax because you have a feeling that the fight is about to start.
Fighting and abuse were part of your everyday life and you are so used to that you're expecting it.
You can't understand why he's not like that. He's different and you're confused because you're used to a completely different scenario.
7. You will apologize often
Due to the constant conflicts in your previous relationship, you were used to apologizing to people all the time.
You always apologized to your partner just to calm him down and conflicts to avoid.
You apologized for the things you did and didn't do.
8. You will learn to trust him
Over time you will get used to good treatment – the treatment you deserve – and you will trust your friend completely.
You will realize that he doesn't want to hurt you and never will.
Slowly you will start to show him your vulnerable side, because you finally made sure he will never hurt you.
You will experience what true love is.
Your toxic experience will make you stronger, but afterwards you give Trust people again.
You will finally see what it means to love someone who loves you, who deserves and respects you.
Don't give up!