Not everything is always black and white, especially when it comes to male-female relationships.
We are wired differently. That's why we don't understand each other's behavior from time to time.
But the reason why men disappear and then try to come back defies logic.
The first thing that comes to mind is that they are players. However, it may not be that simple.
Sometimes there are reasons other than playing on the field and meeting other women. While that's the most likely and sensible reason, there are always exceptions.
So what else could be causing a man's disappearance and reappearance in your life?
1. He knows still not sure how he feels about you
As you can see, men too have things that need to be settled in their heads before they are even ready for a meaningful relationship.
You take a step back for some perspective and some space to think.
Yes, I know that the righteous will say, ”If you know something, then you know; you get it.
What is there to think about?” But sometimes there are many things to think about.
You know; never what goes on in someone's head or how their brain works.
If you think that's the cause, the worst thing you can do is run after him or demand an immediate explanation.
It can only make him more skeptical and even quicker in another direction steer.
Give him the space he wants to think things through.
Keep your cool, even when things get extremely tough. But don't tolerate him coming and going as often as he likes.
His disappearance and return is more than you both agreed on and you're already super understanding if you tolerate it the first time.
2. He developed real feelings for you and it scared him
He might have started a relationship with you and thought about it a day after to live with others without a clear goal of where it will lead.
But once he got to know you better, once he opened up to you and accepted you, it made him vulnerable and it literally scared him so much that he freaked out and left.
There could be issues troubling him, his own insecurities or fears that have made him act stupid.
If he's just scared, he is maybe worth a second chance. But if he's doing it for another reason, wave him goodbye.
3. He doesn't want a real relationship
If he's good with words, he'll keep you in limbo. You will not be in a relationship, nor will you be single.
He will give you the illusion that the two of you have a true connection.
He will pay attention to you, and he'll be super nice to you when you're alone.
But he'll never call you his girlfriend. He will never introduce you to his friends and family.
He might even say he likes you, but he's not ready for a relationship yet.
The truth is, he will never be ready and he will just keep putting you off.
Have zero tolerance when a man behaves like this. Do not allow him to come and leave your life as he pleases.
4. It's going a little too fast
You and your guy might not be on the same wavelength from the start.
While he has decided to take one step at a time, you're already in too deep. The reverse scenario is also possible.
His disappearance could be his subconscious attempt to slow things down.
The development of things overwhelmed him, and he probably felt trapped.
If you think this is the cause, let him breathe and have his space. Take things a little slower and follow his pace.
Relationships have to be built piece by piece, and skipping steps is never a good option.
If he disappears again, let him go, but this time for; r always.
If you've also tried to take things slowly, there's no reason to allow him to treat you that way.
5. He is focused on something else
There may be other things on his mind that have led him to take these extreme measures.< /p>
His work may be stressful or take up too much of his time.
He may have family problems or even health problems that prevent him from leading a normal life.< /p>
The point is that his focus is elsewhere and he is unable to be in a relationship.
There is a chaos in his head that doesn't allow him to nä ;to get closer.
I know your first instinct is to help him, but there's nothing you can do if he won't let you.
You can't run his life for him, and until he does it himself, he won't be ready for a real relationship with you or anyone else.
6. He has trust issues
Not all women are saints and not all men are evil. He may have been with someone who emotionally destroyed him.
If he leaves and then comes back and you're aware of his past, chances are he's developed trust issues that prevent him from letting you in and forming a relationship with you.
Although If you can understand or understand where this is coming from, you can't keep turning the switch in your heart on and off.
Try to be open with him and tell him that you're not for them should pay for mistakes made by others.
Unfortunately, if he disappears again, there's nothing you can do.
He has his own trust issues to deal with.
7. He's afraid of commitment
It seems like every second guy these days has a commitment phobia.
You're just not ready for a relationship . They fear it will trap them and limit all their freedoms.
It may be that he is immature. Having responsibilities and committing himself to just one woman isn't for him.
If he's afraid of commitment, there's nothing you can do about it.
It no point in welcoming him the first time when there's a chance he'll just do it again.
8. He's not sure if this can really work with the two of you
Sometimes the love fog gets so thick that you can't see things clearly.
Take a step back and look at the big picture. Do you really belong in each other's lives? It doesn't have to be anyone's fault.
It's just that you guys aren't compatible and his attempt to get back into your life might just end up being him safe wants him to not make a mistake when he first disappeared.
Make sure you don't make a mistake by inviting him back into your life.