1. “It’s no big deal.”
He never understands what all the fuss is about, why you are so angry or how his actions make you feel hurt.
He only cares about exonerating himself and treating you badly.
The truth is that nobody can tell you how you should feel at certain moments.
If he hurts you, he should put himself in your situation and think about how he would feel if things were reversed.
2. “You're too emotional.”
In a relationship, you should feel comfortable enough to express your feelings.
However, he does not realize that he has made you upset or sad.
He does not want to see or hear you cry.
He looks for a guilty party and is happy to find yours To see exaggerated feelings instead of facing the fact that he is the reason you feel this way.
It's easier than telling you that everything is fine is, or, God forbid, to apologize for something he has done.
3. “You must have heard it wrong, I never said that.”
He will basically make you question your sanity ask.
He will dispute his own words to the point where you might start to think ”Maybe I actually heard it wrong”.
No, there's nothing wrong with your hearing or your memory, you're just emotionally drained and letting things slide because you can't think about them forever.
< p>In this way he keeps control of you and twists reality.
It will only get worse over time!
4. ”Why can't you even trust me?”
If he’s the only reason and responsible for your trust issues if he’s lied, cheated or betrayed you , why is he so surprised that you don't trust him?
Broken trust can't be restored overnight.
To be honest, it's hard to ever restore.
But he's not even working on earning your trust.
It's easier to shift the focus to you and your lack of trust than to really make an effort to show and prove to you that he has changed.
5. “It seems like I can’t do anything right.”
Playing the victim is one of the most common manipulation tactics used by toxic people.
They know that you are compassionate and that sooner or later you will feel sorry for them .
You will apologize to him even though you know you are right because he made you feel like you were being unreasonable and trying to upset him.
He will make you feel like a bad person in such situations while he is innocent in everything.
6. ”You did exactly the same thing.”
If he does something he knows he should never do – texting his ex, telling you he's been somewhere he hasn't been or lying, he will remember that attack is the best defense.
He's going to play a buck game. He will recall and reinforce each of your past mistakes.
He will equate your ex wishing you a happy birthday with texting his ex for months, right equating your needy lie with some of his notorious lies.
7. “I wasn’t lying, I just didn’t tell you. I just must have forgotten. “
Holding the truth, especially when it matters, is the same as telling a lie.
He will defend himself by telling you that when you asked about a certain thing he told you all about it and it wasn't that important to him and then he forgot too and so on.
Bottom line is, if he didn't tell you something that directly affects your relationship, it's his fault.
He will try to manipulate you, to think that he is not.
8. “I'm going to bed.”
It's easy for him to fall asleep in the middle of an argument.
You might be upset, crying or asking him questions – but he doesn't care!
He knows; exactly that you won't be able to fall asleep and you'll probably be thinking about everything that happened during the night.
You won't be able to function properly in the morning while he's rested will be.
He knows that you cannot expend any more energy to continue the argument and that, in all likelihood, things will remain unresolved permanently.
The right one would calm you down and find a solution to the problem instead of rolling over to the other side and showing how little they care about you.