At one point in your life you were just a plan B.
He dragged you with him because he probably had another one in mind and you served as an option – should his original plans fail.
You were never his first thought. Yes, I know it's easy to talk about it when it's over. But when it's happening to you, you don't see it.
Or maybe you see it, but you don't want to admit it.
And why should you? Nobody wants to be someone's second choice.
But time will catch up with you and show you just how shaky the ground you're standing on is. You will see that you made a huge mistake.
If you haven't already, read through the signs that you're only an option, which will confirm what you've been doubting for a while.
1. He doesn’t make plans
You never know where you stand. He never makes plans or commits to you because he knows that something better might be coming.
And by ‘better’ I mean the one who is more important than you.
A spontaneous relationship can be fun, but always being spontaneous and unreliable is suspicious.
2. He lets you down
This point is closely related to the first.
Even if he makes plans with you, he will cancel you at the last minute.
And he won't feel guilty. He doesn't care about your feelings.
The only thing that matters is that he gets what he wants.
Sometimes when he doesn't, come he to you Do you really want to be a second choice?
3. He is fickle
His opinion changes all the time.
One day he's totally in love with you and wants to give you the world, but the next he's completely ignoring you – I mean he'd rather watch the trees in the park grow than you.
That's why the subject is so tricky.
You get all these mixed signals and you know not how to behave. Yes or no?
4. He didn't define your relationship
You two have no title. He doesn’t want to put a name to everything that is going on between the two of you.
And do you know why? Because your title would be – The other. And that would probably make you uncomfortable.
Even if you bring up the problem, he ignores and avoids it with all his might.
5. He only wants one thing from you
When he's ‘in the mood’ he runs to you.
Are you sure you want to be his casual sex?
Think about the other side of the relationship – you're the one who's left alone when he's done with you.
And he gets on with his life until the next time he gets a boner.
< h2>6. You're the only one trying
He doesn't put any effort into the relationship. He doesn't even try.
If you've successfully persuaded him to go on a date and he doesn't cancel right away, then you have everything to take care of – how to get there and where to go.
He leaves everything up to you.
7. He always finds excuses
Anytime you ask him why he didn't make it to your date, why he canceled or was late, he always has an excuse.
It's remarkable. So many coincidences that happen to this one man.
If you care about yourself, let him know how tired you are of his empty words.
Congratulate him on his imagination and serve him.