Once you realize you're in a toxic relationship, it's extremely difficult to break out of it. Either you don't have the courage or you're scared for your life.
Either way, this message goes out to all the women out there who are struggling to find the courage to face their toxic partner.
A lot of us might say, 'It's not that hard. It's as simple as that – he abuses you emotionally or physically and you walk away. It's that simple”. But the reality is much more complicated than that.
No one who has never been in a toxic relationship can understand how difficult it is to break out of one.
Most women are not even aware that they are being emotionally abused. They have been in such a relationship for so long that they forget there is another, better way.
They forgot that they deserved to be with to be treated with respect. They deserve to be treated like human beings.
It's easy to talk about breaking out of a toxic relationship. But it's something else entirely to do so.
If you are secretly suffering and struggling with the pain your toxic relationship is causing you, remember that you are not alone. You are not weak because you fail to escape. It is difficult. I know that and I get it.
Forget all the fears he inspires in you and find the strength to leave him – because you can!
1. Strong jealousy
His jealousy stems from his insecurities. If he were happy with himself, then he wouldn't be jealous of everything you do. He's jealous of your friends and he's even more jealous of you, your dreams and your achievements because he doesn't have any himself.
He's jealous of you because you better than him, but he makes you think you're worthless. This is a toxic partner's most powerful weapon.
2. Quarrels escalate quickly
Fights are part of a normal relationship, but in an emotionally toxic relationship, those fights become a part of everyday life. They tend to appear out of nowhere.
They come out of the blue. In the beginning they are small and meaningless and by the end they have turned into massive and more importantly endless arguments.
But watch out – there is no alarm signal when a normal conversation becomes one Huge arguments escalate, which can also lead to physical violence.
3. You feel uncomfortable around him
You are constantly afraid that you will say or do something that will trigger something in him. You walk on eggshells in his presence just to make sure you don't upset him.
Relationships and love aren't meant to be like this. What you are experiencing is neither love nor a healthy relationship. You should feel safe and not scared around your partner.
4. He criticizes you all the time
Nothing you do or do is good enough. You even try to please him because you are afraid he will hurt you or because you think he might change. Nothing is good enough for him.
He will always find fault with you. Not because you made one, but because he wants you to make one to “justify” his actions.
5. You are trying to make him happy
You are constantly trying to make him happy at any cost. You act like you're fine when you try to do everything you can to avoid making him angry.
You laugh at jokes you don't find funny just to make things nice. n stay calm.
You pull out all the stops to be lenient with him so you can be sure he won't freak out. You realize that you are desperate for his happiness and that you keep your mouth shut when you are angry or unhappy.
6. You can't escape
You feel like you're in prison and the only person who holds the key to your freedom, is your partner. He is the one who controls all aspects of your life and makes sure you cannot escape..
If you feel trapped, find the courage and just leave.
Because of this emotional hell you're going through, you start thinking you're the problem.
You start believing you don't deserve better .
Don't be stupid! Don't let him make you believe that.
No one deserves this and neither do you.
You are a wonderful person who deserves someone to love and respect you. No more and no less.