Every woman has been through the same shit at least once in her life.
You had a guy who There was chemistry, he always called and wrote you, maybe you were even together for a while and then he vanished into thin air.
He was gone as if he had just disappeared off the face of the earth. Feeling rejected can drain your confidence.
The thought of someone leaving to get away from you really makes you think: ”What do I have done wrong?”
As if feeling unwanted wasn't enough, he also left with no explanation, no closure.
Knocked down, refusing to believe in love again, one has to go through the stages of emotional healing.
< p>You have to go through hell and forget he exists so you can give yourself a second chance at love.
You need to cry in your bed, you need to be angry at the world and at yourself for falling in love with the emotionally unavailable man.
You need to learn smile again and forgive yourself for making such a mistake.
It seems like a lot of work and it is. It's a process that everyone has to go through at least once in their lifetime.
You wish you wouldn't do it, but most of us do.
Nevertheless, you eventually learn to survive all of this. You learn to heal and forgive. One learns to leave the past behind.
After you've finally found peace, guess who comes back and knocks on your door?
Oh yes, it is him. Now, suddenly, since you are done with the fact that you are no longer together, he comes back.
He shows up like nothing happened, like her only one took a break because you were dealing with your own problems.
Why do men do this? Why do they decide to come back the very moment you finally moved on?
1. They're lonely
They'll probably text you first with the excuse that they just want to see how you're doing.
The thing is that they feel lonely and depressed and they need to know that you still care about them, that at least someone cares about them.
And the best way to do that is to get in touch with you.
Well some women believe them and their sudden change of heart and they think that men like them really do get back together and they're flattered that the man answers first, but in most cases that's not why they contacted you.
They probably got in touch with you just because they're lonely and in fact all they need is a lousy reply from you.
They want to feel important and they want to know that they still got it.
2. They want comfort
You're going through a tough time and need emotional support.
Well you're the last thing he had and despite the fact that you broke up, you had some kind of emotional bond and understanding for each other.
He wants to take advantage of that. He just wants you back because he needs comfort, a shoulder to cry on.
He'll probably take all his troubles out on you and disappear just like the first time.
So don't fall for that, especially after you've gone through hell and back to get over him. Men like him never change.
3. They need validation of their self-esteem
Being single can give you some bad feelings. You can feel unwanted and ugly when you really aren't, but somehow you can't shake that bad feeling.
This is one of the reasons why your ex want you back He’s probably feeling like shit, his self esteem is zero and he wants approval.
There's no better place to find that than with you than going back to something he already knows.
Don't fall into that trap because it's a selfish act. He wants you not for you back, but for himself to make him feel better.
4. They've forgotten why they broke up in the first place
There's a reason people break up.
He wasn't happy, and maybe he told you what the problem was, maybe he didn't, but it doesn't matter anyway.
The thing is, for some reason, your relationship didn't work out. But now he suddenly wants you back. You know what usually happens?
After a while, loneliness and a lack of emotional support makes you think about your last relationship and how great it was.
Time heals all wounds, true, but it also idealizes the past. That's what he does.
He only remembers the good things about your relationship and he's probably wondering why you broke up in the first place.
But that's the trick; then you get back together, and after the initial allure of the new relationship wears off, the old issues surface and you remember why you broke up.
Of course it leads to it another breakup where you have even bigger problems.
5. They just want sex
That's easy. Men like him only want to be with you again because they want sex. He's stuck in a bit of a dry spell and wants some action on the side.
Obviously you're the first person he'll come to because he thinks you can easily give in since you're probably still emotionally attached to him are bound.
Don't fall too low because he will just take advantage of you and throw you away like he did the first time.
6. They realized they made a mistake
This is the most unlikely, but we'll try.
Maybe he really realized that he made a mistake and he regrets his past actions and really wants you back.
Maybe he was totally unhappy from the moment he broke up with you but he didn't know how to get you back.
When you see that his intentions are true, when you see that he isn't broken, insecure or just plain lonely, then he is he's probably come to his senses and he wants to admit what an idiot he was to let you go.
But in the end you're the one who decides if you give him another chance or not. Have you already forgotten him or not? You have to be damn sure you take it back.
If you don't, you risk another heartbreak, more tears and a long road to healing.