Narcissists can fool anyone who has never been in contact with such a person.
They can tell their victims stories and lies of all kinds, but they cannot deceive anyone who has already experienced their terror.
In light of that, I will mean Take experience with a narcissist and share it with you.
So if, God forbid, a narcissist crosses your path one day, you'll be ready to defend yourself.
I never really wanted to talk about what happened to me because I was ashamed.
I didn't want to admit to anyone, including myself, that I fell in love with the lies and tricks of a malicious man.
I did gulped it down for so long.
I blamed myself for being so stupid that I closed my eyes and ignored everything that was happening right in front of me.
< p>It took me a long time to decide to forgive myself.
I've realized that I'm not perfect and because I made that mistake, I'm not stupid either.
< p>It happened; it went horribly wrong. I could have prevented it, but I didn't.
I made peace with it and moved on. It has been a spiritual journey of blood, sweat and tears. and copious amounts of tears, but it was worth the journey.
I now offer you my assistance. I want you to know all the tricks narcissists have up their sleeves because I want to save you from the pain I've been through.
Read on for the mysteries and narcissistic Find out tricks a narcissist never wants you to know:
1. Don't confront him
If you say anything that will shame him or give him a hint that you know what he is doing, he will make your life unbearable.
If you show him that you are aware of his narcissistic traits, he will bring out the big guns with intent to destroy you.
In this case, and in general, that is Ignoring a narcissist is the best only option you have left.
That's the only way to chase him away. Don't let his provocations bother you. Do not show any emotion while talking to him.
If you act like this, you will be unattractive and uninteresting to him, and eventually he will leave because he likes you can't feed you.
2. He's scared of getting caught
Try to record or write down any kind of abuse he does.
The most important thing is having evidence of the harassment.
It's important because if you have obvious evidence of abuse, he can't manipulate you.
He can't use various tactics to make you think you're crazy and that the abuse never happened.
That you're overreacting right now.
He will try anyway, but since you have proof you can always show it to someone you trust to really confirm that you are not imagining that the abuse actually happened.
< p>Narcissists value themselves and their reputation is the only thing that matters to them.
So when they see that their reputation is in jeopardy, they run away like hell because it's too big a risk for them .
3. He can't stand your indifference
Any kind of response you give them, even in the form of revenge, feeds them. They need constant attention – good or bad.
Instead of focusing on how to get back at him, focus on yourself and try to make your life a better life.
If for any reason you wish to keep in touch with him, prepare for constant attacks and guilt designed to reclaim his source of narcissistic satisfaction – you.
On the other hand, if you're forced to keep in touch with your narcissist, make yourself as boring as you can.
Minimize the conversation and never tell them more than they know must.
Making you unattractive to a narcissist will make them definitely leave you alone, but you won't win the war without fighting back – that's for sure.
4. He can't stand being dumped
If you leave him, he will freak out. He can't take this big ego hit.
So his next step, for him, is only logical to try to get back to you.
He mö ;don't want to get back together with you because he misses you and wants to work on the relationship.
He wants you back so he can hurt and traumatize you because you are the dared to leave him first.
He wants to rekindle the relationship to be the one who kills it.
Of course he will start spreading rumors later, what a crazy one Bitch you are that you ruined his life etc.
Basically he will tell the truth but only your version of the story.
In other words, he will take your version of history and all the things you've been through and present it as his own.
5. He doesn't see you as a person, he sees you as an object
To him you are what psychiatrists call “narcissistic gratification” label.
He doesn't see you as a human being with your own emotions and thoughts.
He sees you as an object, something he must use to feed himself.
You are to him the same as all his exes and his future prey.
He probably spoke badly about her; He probably called her crazy when he first met you.
Well, he does the same to you, to his next prey.
He always makes sure he has a second source just in case he uses up his current source.
He sees you as a disposable object that he immediately goes through can replace a fresh and new one.
6. He is anything but modest
He is neither noble nor humble. He's just an exceptional actor giving the performance of his life.
At the beginning of the relationship, he presented himself as such a flawless character that you even felt guilty because you are no more like him.
His ability to present himself as a charismatic and compelling personality gives him the power to please anyone.
But after he's been putting on his show for so long and you've really seen who he really is, you stop buying it.
But only you – those who don't know him – fall for his false modesty.
In reality, he hides behind the false modesty to hide his arrogant and egocentric self.
These are their biggest secrets, their main tools of destruction.
If they even suspect you're on their trail, they won't even try to get involved with you because you're a high-risk victim.
Because if you discover his tactics, you may come to your senses and interrupt the narcissistic gratification, which he cannot allow.