About an emotionally unavailable man Getting over this emotionally unavailable man is hard.
Especially when that emotionally unavailable man keeps coming back.
Let's be realistic here. When you start a new relationship, you don't expect it to end.
You always hope that he is the one for you, that he will show you that it is worth fighting for .
And then he shows you he's just another bum you've fallen hopelessly in love with.
how do you carry on You know he's not the one, you know he's screwed you over and over, but hope is what breaks you every time you think of him.
You remember still remember how amazing he was when you first met, you can still feel his lips on yours and you still hope he will come back.
< p>But the thing is, emotionally unavailable men have to make that decision for themselves.
No one can force them to change and growing up.
No one can make them change but themselves. And that's the damn part.
So what now? How do you properly get out of such a relationship where you feel like the only one who has loved, where you feel like you're screaming at a wall and nothing happens?
Hell, you even think the wall had more emotions than your ex.
How do you get from one Lost a relationship where you did your best and got nothing in return but pain and frustration?
Let's break it down into a few parts. First, we need to know what the hell he's going to do.
Will he play the victim, make you jealous, rub everything in your face, or will he give you the whole damn package?
Then it is important to know how to react and what to do. Spoiler alert: It's the no contact rule.
Here are 5 things emotionally unavailable men do after a breakup:< /strong>
1. Play the victim
He'll go around telling the story that you're the bad guy and he's done nothing but love you the way he knows best.
He'll tell that story to everyone who has ears and boobs.
Poor boy, he didn't do anything wrong and you ended it out of the blue.
He's just doing it so his reputation can keep.
In this case, he has no intention of winning you back, instead he's trying to get you to freak out and validate his story.
The best thing you can do here is do everything to ignore.
You and your friends know the truth and that's all that matters. You know you did your best and nothing happened.
You know you tried but he refused to do the same.
So, don't give him the pleasure of winning again. Ignore his tales of lies and let these poor girls find out the truth the hard way.
They won't believe you anyway, even if you told them, he's that good in his games.
2. Provoke you with jealousy
He will rub his new girlfriend in your face until it drives you crazy and if you text him and ask about it, he will calmly inform you that your relationship is over.
You two didn't have anything else to talk about, you moved on and so did he.
He made you wonder what the hell is the truth and what isn't.
Leave it I'll tell you that happy grown people don't cheat on their exes.
They don't play games and brag about their new trophies. And you know he's doing just that.
Take a break and let him play all the games he wants. You're better off without him anyway.
Accept your single life and this new opportunity that life has given you.
Going to the next set of organs designed to boost his little ego is nothing more than a need for him.
< p>See, if he doesn't find someone soon enough to boost his confidence, he needs to face the hell he put you through and think about his actions for a second .
And that's something he's not familiar with. So rebounding.
Add in the jealousy games and you have a winner!
An emotionally immature man who could put Barney Stinson to shame.
Consider yourself lucky here, you've dodged a bullet in a way.
It doesn't mean it hurts any less, but it does mean life gives you lemons for one Whiskey Sour.
Disclaimer: Alcohol isn't the answer, but it sure does help solve some of life's mysteries. Or create new ones. It's fun, either way.
4. Friends With Benefits
You know what he wants when he asks you to stay friends.
He wants all the benefits of Relationship minus the obligation. Honey, you deserve more than that.
You deserve more than being someone's backup plan and safety net. And you deserve more than being his nocturnal prey.
This is entirely up to you. If you can be friends with him without all that extra shit, go for it.
Not everyone is the same and not everyone needs the same steps to heal.
Maybe you need to be close to him to remind yourself every day that you're better off without him.
Or you need him to get off the face of the earth.
But whatever you do, remember to put yourself and your needs first. You deserve to be happy too.
5. Show off
He goes off the grid for a while and suddenly he's traveling the world, starting a successful business and he's crazy Instagramming everywhere that.
I mean, if he wasn't on social media that much in the past, think a little about the reason behind this newfound love for social media.
< p>I think you already know the answer.
The reason for all this is to show you that he is so much better than you.
Maybe that's what he has did to you and how he hurt you, affected his ego and shook his world a bit, but don't worry- he's back on his feet.
He's gotta be the best, he's gotta be the best Having women around you, the best car and rubbing everything in your face.
It's his way of telling you that he's moved on and there's no chance you'll ever get back together.
The no -Contact rule. Block him on all social media, delete his photos from your phone and do your best to ignore him.
But don't forget to remind yourself of this every single day for being awesome and worthy and for being the wildest person out there.
You swam oceans of your sadness and you conquered hell. He's nothing compared to that.
Remember, an emotionally unavailable man will never crawl to you again.
He's a master manipulator and he'll make you come to him with all those jealousy games, the showing off, the rebounding dem Stay friends.
The whole idea is that you only see the best of him, which should make you miss him like crazy.
And the worst part? It actually works. When we're in love, we don't think straight.
And he knows; it.
So here are 5 things you can do when your emotionally unavailable man keeps coming back:
1. Stay out of range
Tell him you're done and show him. Every time he calls you, show him you don't care.
Every time he tries to make you jealous, show him you don't care.< /p>
Imagine that he's gone and when it's necessary to acknowledge his existence, give him an Oscar-winning smile.
Make sure you are out of reach of him, his games and toxic love.
2. Remind yourself it was never your fault
It was never your fault. His inability to commit and remain faithful has nothing to do with you.
You did your best, you worked your ass off to make this relationship work.
< p>And sometimes it just doesn't.
Because it takes two to make love and you're the only one working on it.
And every time he comes back to you, asking for a second chance, or driving you crazy with his mind games, remind yourself that you're better than that.
3. Ignore the positives and believe the negatives
I was where you are now.
I was always thinking about the good times we had together and all the times he made me feel like the most amazing woman out there.
Like I was the only one for him and her The world is at our feet. But the thing is, it was never true.
I was never the only one for him and there was never a future for us.
And it was only when I realized the true nature of our relationship that I was able to move on.
If you're sure you don't want him in your life anymore, focus on the negatives.
Focus on all the times you stared at a blank screen waiting for his message.< /p>
Focus on all the times he led you astray, the times he promised you the world and gave you nothing.
See him for who he is , not who he pretended to be.
4. Don't jump when he calls and follow the no contact rule
When you're dealing with an emotionally unavailable man, the thing is that you control your role.
At first you don't know who he is and you give him everything because that's how you love.
But later on, once you see him for what he is, it's incredibly important for you to change that role.
Let him go and don't run in the moment to him in which he calls you. I get it, you still love him and you want to help him, but you have to help yourself first!
And that's exactly why following the no contact rule is important for you to move on.
It's the only way you can show him loud and clear that you've let go and are no longer ready for his games and manipulations.
It's time for him to look for another victim because you are not.
5. Become the woman you've always admired
This amazing, wild woman who won't let anyone take away her worth.
The woman who holding her own no matter what life throws at her.
The woman who holds all the cards in her hands and knows how to play them.
guess? You are already that woman. Just because you've fallen doesn't mean you're not her anymore.
Just because you've believed and hoped doesn't mean you're not badass and wild.
And just because you loved the wrong man doesn't mean you're any less of a wicked woman.
You might lose your footing for a second under the Feet, but you know where you stand.
Never let anything else convince you!