You might not even be aware of it. You might think it's all your fault.
Although he's actually playing dangerous games with your mind.
He's the one whose fingers are tangled in your insecurities. He is responsible for making you feel this way.
Think about it: you were never the person you are today. You always smiled.
You enjoyed your life. But now it's all gone, and he's the one who took it from you.
He played with your mind to take control of you and turn you into his obedient puppet.
He wanted to call the shots in your relationship by depriving you of the right to make any decisions meet and say something or make any contribution in general.
You need to stop this! Put an end to this madness around you.
Life is too short to spend it with a manipulative asshole who doesn't care about your feelings.
He's probably emotionally crippled and insecure, so he's looking for control in your relationship.
That's why he's a manipulative jerk, because deep down he's insecure.
But this is no excuse for such behavior.
His insecurity cannot possibly justify his behavior and the fact that he has turned you into an insecure and frustrated woman who is brainwashed daily. cal.
That doesn't justify the fact that he destroyed your self-esteem and self-respect.
He did all this just to make him feel better. I'm sorry, but this isn't love – this is psychopathic behavior.
If you're worried that your mind has been manipulated, watch these mind games to see if your guy is doing this to you, and if so, run for your life and don't look back.
1. The buck game
He holds you responsible for everything that goes wrong. Blaming someone is toxic behavior that gives them an ego boost because it takes attention away from themselves making them feel better and making you feel like crap.
He doesn’t want to admit his mistakes, so he forces you to take the blame.
And the saddest part is that you actually do.
After a while you stop fighting it because there's nothing you can do. Somehow you are always the culprit.
So you stop fighting and after a while you start believing in it.
He gave you this thought flown into your head and forced you to believe it's the truth.
2. The Gaslighting Game
Gaslighting is a psychological term defined as: “A form of emotional abuse in which the abuser repeatedly manipulates situations to cause the victim to distrust their own memories and perceptions…
The term comes from the ”Gas Light”, in which a husband tries to drive his wife crazy with a variety of tricks, causing her to question her own perception and sanity.”
See, it's not your fault. It never was.
He let believing in things that aren't real in order to destroy your confidence and self-esteem.
His plan was to shake your confidence so that you would only trust him completely.< /p>
So he can then do whatever he wants with you.
3. The Blame Game
Somehow everything will revolve around him. If he needs something from you, something that doesn't make sense, he'll make you feel bad until you give it to him.
He will blackmail you with his emotions just to make you give in and give him what he wants.
Unfortunately you still have feelings for him and eventually you will feel sorry for him, so you give in.
He has no problem stooping to the lowest possible level just to get what he wants. He has no morals at all.
That's why he's able to do this. Therefore he has the power to destroy you.
4. The "decoy game"
When you fight and yell at each other, knowß he how he can turn things around.
Let's say you talked about something, you argued about it, and after ten minutes of yelling you realize you're defending yourself, while blaming it all on you.
Not only that, you're not even fighting about the same thing anymore. Now you're arguing about something you screwed up a year ago and he never got over.
Plus, especially for moments like this, he made sure that you screw up every once in a while: for moments when he's screwed up and can turn things around in his favor by rubbing your age-old mistakes in your face.
5. The Rollercoaster Game
This is a classic behavior of every toxic man in a relationship.
They all change their behavior in just a few minutes without forewarning and for no reason. He just does it to you.
Some days he's the best friend you've ever had and the next day he's a complete jerk.
You're wondering : Are you the cause of the problem? Did you do something that upset him? The answer is simple.
You haven't done anything wrong. He’s just trying to manipulate you for the next favor that he’ll need from you. Ignore it and leave him as soon as you can.