Looking at it from the outside, it should It's child's play to end a toxic relationship. At least everything seems pretty clear.
You are not happy with your partner, it is obvious that your romance has no future and you are not compatible at all. So what's stopping you when it all seems so obvious?
Well, the problem is that you're probably using all sorts of excuses to stay in this toxic relationship. You find it easier to hold on to these thoughts than to step out of your comfort zone and actually make a change.
1. ”He will be the man I need”
The number one reason women stay in bad relationships is hope, which has no logical basis.
While there is absolutely no sign your boyfriend might ever change, Do you for some reason really believe this is going to happen.
You're waiting for him to miraculously wake up one morning and realize he can't hurt you anymore. You believe that your love will eventually make him change his behavior and your romance will take a turn for the better.
Well, I hate to burst your dream bubble, but people don't change unless they want to. You are practically waiting for a miracle that will probably never happen.
2. ”I will regret my decision”
What if you miss that man after you worked up the courage to leave him? What if you immediately regret your decision?
What if you realize you should have stayed with him? What if he turns out to be the love of your life and you never get over him?
These questions and others like them cross your mind every time you think about a breakup. I'll tell you something – that's what your toxic friend wants you to think.
He planted these doubts in your head. He deliberately plays with you and manipulates you into thinking you can't do it without him.
Trust me, if you leave him it will be the best decision you have ever made and you won't regret it for a second.
3. “He's just emotionally broken.”
Let's get one thing straight: Your boyfriend doesn't treat you like this because he's emotionally unavailable and broken. He won't hurt you because he doesn't know anything else.
He doesn't break your heart without even realizing it. He doesn't give you morsels of his love and attention because he can't love anymore.
He's just doing it because he can. In short, he's an asshole.
Now that you know that, I'm sure you agree that he doesn't deserve your sympathy, so it's high time you stop it.
You keep making excuses for his behavior and trying to get deeper and deeper under his cold exterior. No, you won't find a tender heart to love you there.
You won't find anything. There is no other side to his personality – he's just the way he is and that can no longer be the reason you're staying with him.
4. Settle for less vs. die alone
You only have two options in life. You either leave this guy and die alone or you continue to settle for less than you deserve.
So you assume that being with someone is better than facing loneliness. This man has convinced you that you are not made for love and that without him you will be single forever.
First of all, this is absolutely not true. In fact, I promise you that if you have the courage to leave this guy, you'll find a man who deserves you.
But even if you end up single, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. You don't need a man to be happy and I'm sure you'll rock your single life.
5. “I'm going to be his salvation.”
Another common misconception many women in toxic relationships have is the belief that their man needs them. Let's be honest: you would probably leave your boyfriend, but you feel responsible for him.
You think you are the only one who can save him. The only one who can bring him out of his darkness and show him the light.
Now listen carefully: it's not your job to fix broken men. It's not your job to take control of his life, help him grow up, or fight his demons.
Stop trying his happiness over your own to deliver. Most importantly, stop putting that doomed relationship above your peace of mind.